CounselingChristians

Q: Need suggestions regards of myself and my own healing as I’m soon to be 28 and I have zero friends, no job and am disappointed in life.  I have friends from high school or middle school and I don’t keep in contact as they started their own lives or I’m always put on the back burner or they just moved away and had their own lives. It’s been 10+ years since I had a female (same sex) friend seems like after I got a relationship the timing wasn’t good or he would disapprove of. Or they wouldn’t stick and end up treating me horrible such as A. Being my friend and stealing B. Being a friend and trying to get with my partner. Or C both. Either way I haven’t had the best situation with getting or having friends within my adult years!  It’s been very rough. I feel such regret and pain even hate and jealousy which I know isn’t what a person should be. I just don’t know how to to deal with I had a kid after a great job and lost it (was fired for maternity leave) and I felt that was ...

Q: I’ve been pretty distant with God lately, I don’t want to be but every time I try to push through and read the Bible I just get so angry I have to stop. Right now, I honestly think it’s stemming from feeling like God doesn’t want me to have any friends. I haven’t had a friend in so long, and I recently stayed home all weekend to watch my sister’s pets while she went to see her best friend who lives out of state, I was happy to do it, but it also just brought up a lot of complex feelings. It’s not a simple jealousy thing when I see people doing stuff with their friends, etc. It breaks my heart, and people will say “Just focus on God” or “Make God your friend” and I’m honestly tired of hearing that bc it makes me feel like I’m not allowed to desire friendship, like I’m asking for too much just bc I want a friend. Even my sister hardly spends time with me, which hurts even more than not having friends. I’m not closed off, I’ve done everything I can to “get out there” it just doesn’t wo...

Trouble making friends at 2 churches, have kids, but somethings not right, and I am lonely.  A: I am married and in a good relationship, but I feel incredibly lonely. We are Asian and attend the city's only Asian but small church. My husband serves as a Bible study leader and considers it his home church. However, I often feel that the moms there intentionally exclude me or avoid conversation (hardly invite our kids to event) . Honestly, I sometimes wonder if I’ve done something wrong or if I come across as unapproachable. I’m not sure what I can do. I know this environment isn’t good for my mental well-being. I started attending large American church, but due to cultural differences, I haven’t been able to form any friendships. So, essentially, our family now attends two separate churches. I know it’s unusual, but do you have any suggestions on how I can find a sense of belonging? Q: So Ill give some thoughts in two parts or two ways to consider on this. And some suggested things ...

Q: I am a Teen. I’ve been praying for new friends, and im still all alone w no friends. Is there something I need to be doing to contribute or should I just keep waiting on God? A: You do need to be active about it. You pray & go. Not pray and stay. Trust God and go. Be actively go-ing in your life.  I had three years without friends and I was so lonely, so I tried finding friends in places I shouldn't have. Sometimes God isolates us so that he can refine us. When we are completely alone, that is the time when you can get super close to God, you're free of distractions, you learn to rely on and find your strength from Him. God actually used my time of isolation to reveal part of His plan for my life, one of my biggest regrets was not realizing that I should've been praying and working towards that then, instead of now. From my own experience, you definitely should wait on God. He has plans for you and for now has put you in a place where you can truly dive deep into His...