CounselingChristians

Q: I feel lost.  I've been born again for a few years... but the last 2 years I've been drifting. My grandmother passed away 2 weeks ago, and I struggle to talk to God.  I feel so guilty and I want to have a relationship with Him again. I just don't know what to do Advice will be greatly appreciated. A: God is the God of peace, love and blessing. He will always leave Gis 99 to come lead the one who strayed, back, and onto the right path. It is the right timing to come back to Him. Lean on God at this time & you will get your strength from the promises and guidance he gave us, for during life's difficult times 🫂😊.  Here are some grief reminders and encouragement, helps to help you through this grief season.  Read the verses in there daily, and read the Bible too. Look at the stories where grief is shown and see how God helped them think and get through it. And trust God to walk through this with you. To help you... here are several stories that illustrate grief...

Q: I can't stop the self hatred and extreme anger I feel towards myself.  My husband died a little over a year ago from complications of a stroke. He had a massive stroke on February 19, 2024 and passed away a few weeks later on March 6, 2024 from complications that developed afterwards. We had spent the late afternoon he had his stroke running a couple little errands. Then when we got home that evening, I went and did some work on the computer (I used to sell on Etsy) and then washed my hair. At one point, I went to our bedroom because I wanted to tell my husband something but I saw the door to the master bathroom, that's attached to the master bedroom, was closed. This was maybe an hour after we got back home. I remembered that he had complained of irregularity earlier that day, so instead of interrupting him, I walked out of the bedroom to give him some alone time. I came back maybe a half hr later and still saw the bathroom door closed.  This time I had an instinct that m...

Q: My mom passed away in her sleep yesterday. She was only 61 and as of right now we don't know why? She never confessed Christ as Lord and I'm having trouble trusting God. The thought of my mother being eternally separated from God is something my mind can't cope with. It hurts more deeply than anything I've ever felt. A: My heart go out to you in this time of deep grief and sorrowful suffering. It reminds me of Lazarus death in John 11:32-36: "When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled....Jesus wept." Jesus, the God-Man, our Savior also in his humanity and surely as God, was grieved, and was a man of sorrows too, much more than we can fathom. He's experienced loss as well, and he can comfort us in times like this. And it is in times like this we need to lean on Him, and stay close to Him in the Scriptures, and by other believers conforting and reminding you of his goodnes...

Q: Need advice. My daughter passed away of cancer last July 4th. Her husband is filling the void with a new woman some 4 months now. He and my grandkids are a huge part of my life and I don't want to lose my relationship with my son in law snd grandkids. He's invited us over for Easter and the girlfriend and her kids will be there. I still can't accept he has a new woman but he really wants us to come and meet her. What should I do and what if I can't handle it once I'm there. I don't want to make a scene. A: The dynamic changed because of her death. The marriage covenant ended at her death, so it makes sense he would find comfort in someone else and try to move on. Yes you are and always will be the grandparents 😊✨️ and should be in your grandkids in their lives, but you'll have to take a back seat to the traditions and ways he chooses as he moves forward.  I pray they go to church, or you at least can have them sometimes and for summer vbs. Truthfully m...

Q: I need help. I went out drinking on Saturday night which is not something I is usually ever do, but I did. I was talking to a lady at the bar about Jesus, and it was a really beautiful conversation. People kept bringing shot after shot and I kept taking them, and then the entire night took a turn. I am dealing with the death of my mom just 4 weeks ago, and I feel like I became manic on Saturday night. I turned into a crazy person. I almost felt possessed I lost all control over myself. The guilt, shame, depression, etc etc etc is totally overcoming me. The worst part was in my drunken stupor, I was talking about Jesus. disgracing his name! How could I try to share my love / experiences with God while being a drunken fool! I just feel so lost right now without my mom. And I made an absolute fool of myself and I disgraced Jesus. I have been praying and repenting but this shame knows no end. My relationship with God is so strong, but idk who the heck that was in control of my body on S...

Q: My daughter passed away in 2021 of natural causes, but I’m just so angry, sad, confused, and I feel like I’m just existing. I have a teenager and am pregnant due beginning of year with another girl….  My church doesnt has any grief resources and I’m just stuck. My family is absolutely not supportive (and haven’t been my entire life.) I feel like I’m on my last piece of strength. I just constantly replay that day in my head and I try to convince myself she is okay in heaven with God, but my heart hurts so bad. Some days I feel as if I’m dying of actual heartbreak. Idk what to do. And I’ve been In therapy, I have been drunk & high, but I am completely sober and have been (even before getting pregnant), I just don’t know what else to do.  A: You didn't mention your husband. If not married, I wanted to (as a believer is to) address this [before getting into the helpful reply below that will help you]. If you are living in sin, God will not bless you. He won't hear your pra...

Q: I lost my dad a month ago and it has really been tough on me. It's draining my relationship with God. I keep asking Him questions 😔 why did He take him. My dad was our main source of survival, he was a believer, he loved God and this is really hard for us. Mom doesn't work, so now we are at our lowest. I need words of encouragement and prayers 😔 A: Loss is one of the hardest things we have to endure here. I know the Psalmist in 139 tells us the Lord knows our days before they were fashioned for us. He is soverign & knows exactly when He will call us home, and it is always at the right time. 🤗 Take comfort in knowing the Lord knows what He is doing even when it seems hard for us, as we do not see the road ahead. We are called to trust Him entirely and know that all things work together for good. I know it may seem very hard to believe at this point but this truth always bears out, ...and we can praise, give testimony to, and thank God now and forward looking to then. ...

Q: My husband's best friend died last week in a horrible accident. He was only 26 years old. My husband talked to his friend about God, but his friend was never interested nor did he turn to Christ.  Something my husband now struggles with is believing his friend has gone to hell. How do you comfort that type of wound. My husband has almost grown bitter with God. I'm not sure what to do 😥. A: Do we know what happened in the last few minutes? Remember the thief on the cross? Perhaps he didnt die instantly and at the last moments, prayed to God for genuine salvation. Hold to such hope.  First, do comfort your husband with appropriate Scriptures, and ones that call him to rest in and trust God. Secondly Pray for him, and for the sin of bitterness or resentment to not take hold of him, and to not blame God. Thirdly remind him of truth. And that he was faithful to share biblical truth and the Gospel. That is all you can do. The friend had his whole life to get right with God. ...