CounselingChristians

Q: How do you deal with doubt/ trying to find a reason for life. Also figuring out the distinction between relationship with God and Christian Nationalism. I’m feeling very lost and like I’m on the wall of losing my faith.  I don’t want to lose my faith, but my prayers feel vain, and reading the Bible just seems like reading any other History book. I don’t know what to do I’m pretty sure God is real, but I don’t understand. For instance, I’ve prayed for almost 3yrs that God would take away the deep feelings I have for my ex because it causes me so much hurt and He never does. Everyday I wake up crippled by the pain of that situation, I feel lost and lonely and yet my cries feel like they’re bouncing off the walls of Heaven.  I’m not looking for any kind of male validation. I simply think that if God is so good and brings peace then I wouldn’t still be struggling so hard with this amongst other things. I feel like nothing in my life goes any good way at all. I pray and nothing ...

Q: Should you break off an engagement if your significant other isn’t as much into the church as you are? My fiancé will go to church, but will not want to go sometimes and I take the kids by myself. I feel like I’m on fire for Jesus, and he just isn’t. He often says “what has Jesus done for me?” And I try to tell him to keep the faith don’t lose that faith in him. I don’t know what to do.  We’ve been together for 14 years and have 2 children together. Ive been engaged to him for 7 years. He doesn’t seem to want to get married either, but I do so badly. Advice?  A: Guys usually know within 9 months if he wants to marry a woman. He will pursue it and get married right away. The fact that the relationship is 14 years old and you didnt marry after 1 year (let alone now on Year 7) is a very major red flag. He is using you. He is getting all the wife benefits without you having security and legal protections, as well as living in sin outside God's will. Your fornicating led to preg...

I need some advice. I've been running a church event for 2 years now. I felt a desire to find a way to attract people to the church and peak their interest. For the last 2 years I have planned, preped, set up, and put together the event, with little to no help outside of volunteers the day of.  Today, I approached the childrens minister, who offered to help this year, to set a meeting date to go over details for the event. I was then told to my face that it will most likely be canceled this year because she is too stressed with VBS to worry about this event. I am hurt because I have done everything for this event every time, and did not ask for help but accepted it when offered. And now the entire thing seems it's going to be canceled because the help no longer wants to help, even though I am more than happy to do this on my own. I want to speak to my pastor about this, as he is the one who authorized this event and told me to make it good. But part of me is worried he will agr...