CounselingChristians

God has given us the spirit of truth and not of fear. He is with us and will help us in every situation.  With that said, we are not to let demons lead us into sin, nor children of the Devil, nor Satan. We must stand firm on truth and righteousness and our convictions. We are not to let people pressure us (test and tempt us) so we can gain the approvl of people over obedience to God and following Christ and truth.  Beyond Scripture showing us Satan tempting Jesus in various ways for 40 days, we read  in  John 12:42  – “Many of the rulers believed in Him” - in other words, they knew He was from God; they saw it – “but because of the Pharisees, they were not confessing Him for fear they would be put out of the synagogue, for they loved the approval of men rather than the approval of God.” They were more concerned about what people thought of them than following Jesus. They turned away and didnt follow him. If you are a Christian you follow Jesus no matter what t...

It is a sin if you are using it for the wrong reasons.  If you are trying to attract attention or use it to seduce or deceive people then it is sin.  Men wearing makeup on play stages or as actors for tv quality "normal looks" makes sense in that context, outside of that, no. And if you are trying to look like a woman then no because God has warned on that sin perversion in Scripture.  Women wearing makeup could wear it to enhance their natural look (to look natural) not like a clown or prostitute. But at appropriate age and times. If you follow those guidelines and are at an age your parents think it is ok then it is fine. Imo theres no need for anyone in school to wear it, once you are 19 or in college you could but your face is young looking and doesnt really need enhancement of natural look. It might be wise to wait until after you are over 19 or 21 when you either start a career or after college when you get a job.  It is really a waste of money also to be doing...

Here is more info on sexual sins and the importance of purity before marriage. We are not like those in the world, we are to be holy. Just because you can be forgiven doesn’t mean you should commit sin. Premarital sex is a sin and is visibly stated in the Bible and warned against.  If your aware that’s it’s a sin don’t do it because then you are going in to it knowing it is sin and rebelliously doing it anyway....and thats wicked; not living righteously and obediently . Believers live by the righteous nature not the sin nature. It is not that it is not a good thing to do, it is commanded just as being equally yoked is. Those who are righteous want to do what is right and do it.  “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. ...

Q: I am a teen and my mom is dying. There were arguments over the holidays it seems a lot of bitterness and busybody gossips. One of them was saying my mom is a leech and saying things making her look bad. And some went on social media and were basically blasting about it. I am so upset at how they are treating her. A: I am sorry to hear there is not peace in the home and during the holidays. It would be nice if it consistently was and people were decent, but (on the other hand) then we wouldnt long for Heaven and everything to be made new if we were content here. We are in a sin stained world and even those who do things like what your relatives are doing, the Christians among you (including yourself) need to be full of love, grace, forgiveness, but the unsaved ones will be slanderers, bitter, resentful etc and not respond as believers do, even if they have morals and values in a society founded on Christianity. Their nature doesnt allow for it. We are all stuck in this fallen world...

Q:Why is there so much debate online and in the church as a whole about lgbt? There are so many sins that are committed by all of us, but everyone is loving and kind about it until said sin is homosexuality (not even homosexual behavior but just having those thoughts). No sin is greater than any other sin, so why is this one targeted so heavily? If there wasn’t so much debate over it, it wouldn’t be an issue. If we are willing to forgive adulterers, if we are willing to forgive thieves, if we are willing to forgive blasphemers, and ready to tell them such, why is it any different for lgbtq people? Luke 17:3 Rebuke, and forgive. Do not condemn. No sin is big enough to separate you from God. He sent Jesus to the world to make that possible. Just like with heterosexual attraction, there is a difference between attraction and lust. If the thought of attraction was no different than the sin of lust, romance and marriage would not be in God’s plan.  The only reason lgbtq is so debated ...

Q: a girl at my public school has been with all the gay girls in the school. She dated one of my friends, and the gay girl she is also my friend. I currently like one of her best friends (it’s a guy). She was texting me earlier and said it sucks that likes a straight person and said it is me.  I don’t know how to approach this situation. What should I do?  A:  So you have a few friends who are gay and there's a guy friend of hers, who might be bi or pansexual that you are interested in... 🤔 I am wondering why you are friends with people who are not Christian. That is a big red flag and you are going to need to start removing yourself from those friendship circles, esp to ones who are in the lgbt lifestyles. The depraved always seek to do all the depraved they can. It is one reason we are not to be friends with those unsaved... they try to lead us into rebellion towards God and into all sorts of sins. Children of the devil have no interest in righteousness.  If y...

Drifted from faith Q:  I've drifted away from the Lord and I have a lot of guilt about that because I really need him right now and I feel like he's mad at me. A: It sounds like you need to resolve that broken fellowship by talking to God in prayer, repent of what's wrong, and getting your walk straightened. Including beginning your daily reading of the Word [it can be accompanied by audio follow along]. Because usually someone who is reading the Bible daily is walking the righteous path, and those who avoid it do so to sin without care. Align to God's will for your daily life by reading, studying and applying it so you become more like Christ. This addresses broken fellowship with God due to sin and helps on how to pray This discusses getting your relationships aligned with who God wants us around and around us. This gives helps on finding out if you really are saved and helps on assurance of salvation. This is a  Growing Believers Resource  that can help ...

Q: Why do people comment rudely? A: How do you know they meant it that way?  There is something called judging righteously, which is accepted in the Christian faith. If you’re doing something that’s wrong or unacceptable a believer will, in love, try to guide you to the right way.  One of the problems today is the one reading a toneless text has made assumptions on what a person meant, without knowing how they meant it and the intention of their heart. They couldve done their best to express something, or bcuz of age and how shortly they said or commented (vs detailed). The best thing to do to avoid misunderstanding is kindly ask "pls clarify" or kindly say "what did you mean by that? 🙃".  Other times the person is in fact doing what Scripture says to: Proverbs 15:31 "The ear that heeds correction attains to life, but he who scorns reproof goes astray." Proverbs 27:5 "Open rebuke is better than hidden love." 2 Timothy 4:2 "Preach the word; ...

Q: I need insight on what is and isn’t okay before marriage in God's eyes ? Scripture would also be super helpful. Ive always believed in God and considered myself a Christian but my boyfriend and I had sex, have been in other relationships, or a Christian relationship before. We are now trying our best to wait until marriage (we have slipped up a few times and I know that’s wrong and we’re trying to be better.) Although I really enjoy making out with him and it makes me feel loved and connected to him when we do make out. But most of the time he will either not makeout with me or just barley makeout with me... cuz now he says it’s because it’s a sin to makeout before marriage - because it’s sexual immorality. So what falls into sexual immorality and what doesn’t? Also what are ways that we can feel more connected to eachother and show eachother our love without being sexually immoral? A: Anything that causes him to have lustful thoughts. That could be being in private places ...

My sister in-law grew up in Church with all of her siblings, and has since abandoned her faith.  She caims that God is love, there is nothing to fear about where you end up, because a loving God would not send people to Hell and the below things.  How should we give Rebuttals to: -all roads leading to heaven -spirituality over religion (christianity) -God is love and doesn't send people to Hell  -Hell does not exist -One's soul and its eternal destination is not something to ever be concerned over. -Answers to people who never hear the Gospel, how do they get saved? A: She was likely a false convert all along. She went to church since your family did, and was not around christian friends, and also not reading Scripture regularly. Plus, She likely went to public school, listened to non Christian and atheist friends there and [if young] got in a cesspool area of social media's false content that duped & decieved her. She believed Satan's lies over God [the Word] ...

Q: My mom doesn’t want me to have Snapchat because she thinks I can turn off my location (which you can't). But it’s the only way to communicate with some of my friends . Is it a sin if I have it? I use it to minister. I know it's definitely a place to use caution. But I use snap to send out stuff for personal bible studies. And I find that most people I witness to are willing to give me their snap, so it provides a follow up on people I reach with the gospel.  A: From what I’ve seen and heard Snapchat and Omogle were designed to do sinful sneaky things. The disappearing photos function [and the functionality was updated for alerting if screenshoted was made to send nudes so that people could feel more comfortable sending them, but they're still sending them!]. For young people using it can lead to a lot of bad things. The thing is it does let people be sneaky. It does let you see others stuff [their sneaky and sinful stuff], so that and predators and groomers and sexually...

Q: Should I return to a former church? I left a previous church several months ago. I was hurt because of a specific person there. I recently learned that you should only leave the church if it teaches something that doesn't align with the Bible's teachings. If you want to leave the church because of personal matters, don't. But I left because when I addressed the problem with my pastor to fix the matter, she said she'll do something about it but after months of waiting that person was still constantly hurting me. I got so down so I decided to leave. When I left, my pastor never even wanted a chance to talk me over about leaving and let me leave. Was my decision wrong of leaving the church? The one who was hurting me was exhibiting homosexuality and does things that only targets to hurt me, especially words. Ps. I recently found out she addressed the issue and that person left the church. I also have 2 family members in leadership positions there. What should I do?...

Apostle Paul said to Timothy: “when I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also” (2 Timothy 1:5). Individually Invite one over for Sunday lunch: Ask your Christian parents & grandparents similar questions and record an audio of it. Ask them some of their favorite Bible verses, Bible stories, and wisdom they learned from Scripture as a young person, and good bible advice they think about as an adult. Ask best wisdom for you as you prepare for college years. Ask how their parents faith influenced them, and who besides them had the most godly influence on them. Ask about how they dealt with some persecution as a young believer and troubles they faced in life because of their faith. Ask to look at their Bible (and flip through it and look at their notes a bit). After their interviee, share some of your current answers with them of those too.  Write up what you learn in...

Q: I am a Teen. I’ve been praying for new friends, and im still all alone w no friends. Is there something I need to be doing to contribute or should I just keep waiting on God? A: You do need to be active about it. You pray & go. Not pray and stay. Trust God and go. Be actively go-ing in your life.  I had three years without friends and I was so lonely, so I tried finding friends in places I shouldn't have. Sometimes God isolates us so that he can refine us. When we are completely alone, that is the time when you can get super close to God, you're free of distractions, you learn to rely on and find your strength from Him. God actually used my time of isolation to reveal part of His plan for my life, one of my biggest regrets was not realizing that I should've been praying and working towards that then, instead of now. From my own experience, you definitely should wait on God. He has plans for you and for now has put you in a place where you can truly dive deep into His...

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Q: Want to quit Smoking I have struggled with a nicotine problem for a very long time and wonder if it is a sin. It makes me feel like God won’t listen to my prayers because of sin. I feel embarrassed to talk to him after I kept trying to quit and kept saying I will give it up only to end up falling back into doing it. Advice? A: I personally cannot fathom any Christian smoking. Esp today with medical knowledge advanced, and us knowing what it does to our body and to  others .  Here's very important info on smoking from a  biblical perspective . Keep in mind, Smoking is not only bad for your health, makes your breathe and cloth stench, but it  damages your witness.  It is a waste of money and time(1). It allows something to control you. also  it harms *other people*.  How can you say you "love others or love one another" when you are regularly harming others  without caring ? If you cared, you  wouldn't  do it.  Second hand smokers ...

Is it a sin to be asexual ? A: Christians are set apart from the world and are a new creation. We should not involve ourselves in the LGBT+ lifestyles nor terminology in any way at all. Calling yourself that is a term that the wicked made up to confuse a nation of people; which has now gone global.  This generation may try to put a label on everything but I’m not straight, gay, or lesbian. I’m a child of God. And as a child of God I am to follow what His Word says. Don’t try to fit into the crowd by saying “oh I’m this too” no. You’re not. You may be called to be single but that’s not asexual. You are just called to be single. Or you are just a unmarried person who will one day marry. Don’t try to find ways to fit in with the demon led culture & world around you, because it will never work and can lead to even bigger problems. You can’t balance God or the world you choose one or the other. Will you live for the World? Or will you live for God? You can’t choose both. It’s not a ...

Q: I've been homeschooled since 2nd grade, and now I'm 14 with the possibility of going into public highschool. The reason I might be going? Well, I want to bring more teens to church, and I want to help advocate for better education. The only thing is... I have moderate/severe anxiety. I love people and I'm extroverted,  but I'm incredibly anxious about most things (E.g. do people want me around, am I good enough, am I pretty enough, etc.). I have prayed about it, and do try to rest & trust in Jesus.  I just want to be able to fulfill what believers are to do... evangelizing my peers. Advice & prayers? A: Prayers for your anxiety. You do need to involve your Christian parents or grandparents in this consideration. It is not wise to jump into shark infested waters without thinking it through. The world can eat you up, esp at a young age.  Give serious prayer to this, to truly consider where you are heading into [Demons den] if Public School is where you might...

Q: I am a teen and haven’t gone to church in a year now... because I’m too scared to go alone. Last year I was going with someone, but now I have nobody to go with. Realistically, I know nobody at the church is going to judge me for going alone but I have really bad social anxiety.  How can I get over it so I could go? A: God removes our fear.  Fear means=  False evidence appearing real. The thing we are nervous about, 99.9999% of the time never proves to be a actual concern once its over. We can be confident because God is with us and he directs our path. 🤗 Try doing sth "one thing at a time" and you will gain confidence. Here are examples.  1. Get a ride to church  2. Go to church. 3. Attend Sunday school 4. Ask 3 questions during class. > A. Does anyone live near x area who can pick me up for church and drop me off on Sundays?  > B. Ask for prayers about your anxiety & fear. > C. At least ask 1 question about the lesson, during the lesson....

Q:  Is it okay to have sex before marriage if you already know for sure you’re going to marry the person you are dating, & it’s just a matter of time before it happens? I know sex before marriage is a sin but do you think it can be forgiven if you end up marrying that person afterwards anyways? A: Right now ypu are living outside of God's Will. You need to get your life straightened out.  First, No one knows for sure theyre going to marry that person. They could die today, or before the wedding. You could realize you need to flee that relationship b4 your trapped for life in it.  Secondly, If you are actually saved, all your sins are forgiven... but why would you purposefully commit a sin just because you know God forgives? We can't use God to clear our conscience so that we feel free to do whatever we want. Its a sin, and as a Christian you should be abstaining from all sin as much as you possibly can. Jesus bore the wrath of God for all your sins. Do you ever w...

Resources and FAQ are further below. * Before going through the below, if you have BPD or Bipolar , you need to conquer that before you should get into any relationship. Or a abusive/sexual trauma in your past that hasnt been dealt with, you need to take care of it through biblical counseling before you get into any relationship because both issues will harm & destroy any relationship you start. Don't date nor marry until you've completed biblical counseling and are free of this and your past 🙏. If you are already dating someone, I highly recommend you start seeing a prof biblical counselor right away, to conquer these issues quickly, so you can live free and a normal life, that can end up in a good and steady marriage with Christ at the center.  ============================== Resources here are for believers, and offers guidance for those in unequally yoked relationships.  DATING, BOUNDARIES & RESOURCES ====Dating Boundaries and Resources==== Today the way people i...