CounselingChristians

Q: Dating someone who professes to be a Christian, but is not really practicing. How to share with them your decision to remain purity focused/ abstinent, and not kiss before marriage? I’m honestly a bit scared about how someone might react to that. I’ve met practicing Christian men who weren’t ready to go that far, but I’ve also met other Christians who actually respected and shared that conviction. The “no kissing” part is usually the hardest to explain, because I know many Christians who are fine with kissing before marriage. Personally, I’ve chosen not to, for several reasons that are important to me. Sometimes I wonder if it’s even worth giving a chance to someone who isn’t fully practicing but still believes in God, and just being upfront that there won’t be sex or kissing until marriage. But I also believe that real love transcends everything and that if someone truly loves me, they’ll understand and respect that.  Advice? A: His answer tells you if hes not the one. There's ...

Q: Should you break off an engagement if your significant other isn’t as much into the church as you are? My fiancé will go to church, but will not want to go sometimes and I take the kids by myself. I feel like I’m on fire for Jesus, and he just isn’t. He often says “what has Jesus done for me?” And I try to tell him to keep the faith don’t lose that faith in him. I don’t know what to do.  We’ve been together for 14 years and have 2 children together. Ive been engaged to him for 7 years. He doesn’t seem to want to get married either, but I do so badly. Advice?  A: Guys usually know within 9 months if he wants to marry a woman. He will pursue it and get married right away. The fact that the relationship is 14 years old and you didnt marry after 1 year (let alone now on Year 7) is a very major red flag. He is using you. He is getting all the wife benefits without you having security and legal protections, as well as living in sin outside God's will. Your fornicating led to preg...