CounselingChristians

Q:I am afraid to say this but how do I stop my heart from feeling like I don’t want to love my husband for what he did . When I did the “same “ thing .  My husband was seeing prostitutes for the last 4 years . And held it from me till the beginning of March this year.  And I revealed my secret to him that I was unfaithful to him . By sexting other men over the phone and sharing explicit pictures of me and masturbating .  I held the secret from him until about a year ago and told him.  We both were being unfaithful to each other around the same time . We were not in a good place at all . We were both drinking together at night and had two little ones at the time. And he slept with the first prostitute aroundd this time i was sexting other men .  We were both lustful due to the fact that we both indulged in pornography way before we met each other . I was introduced at 9 and him probably in his teen years but the unfaithfulness didn’t come from this for me ....

Q: Recently I sinned by fornicating again. I did ask forgiveness from God for being unfaithful again. I thought God had forgiven me (& I’m no longer participating in such activities). I had just repented and made the effort to turn from evil, but...just found out I’m pregnant. It was one brief moment!! Really and truly I cannot believe I’ve went backwards like that and my life feels ruined. I don't understand. Did God truly forgive me? Should I stop praying, because I knew better but I didn’t do better. I said yes to my flesh and now it’s costing me. I’m willing to lose everything else, but to lose Jesus because of my sin - I really cannot bare the thought. A: You dont stop praying because things dont go your way. Prayer is to align you to God's will, (not for him to act as a genie who does what you want). You becoming pregnant wasn't a punishment from God; it was basic natural outcomes of happens when humans have sex. You know Scripture teaches sex was designed only ...

Q: My young 9 year old brother was caught watching porn. We had a family meeting about it, and he was there. The parents argued. How can we/I help my brother, with this issue?  A: This is a growing issue in families today. It has been called the New Drug.  It can cause arguments among parents if both or one are not true born again believers.They should have a united front and discussed it before the sit down. There might be a "personal moralism vs righteousness" problem, if one isnt saved but they need to address this issue.  Your brother obv understands this is a big issue (since the adults argued at the intervention meeting), but hopefully, at minimum, it scared him off from ever looking at those things again. Boys with free access to devices and computers, [(as well as their friends and at school) & if lgbt cult infiltrated his school], will now be looking at this stuff by age 10.  So by age 9 there should be convos in a Christian home from a health & body...

Sexual sin, other sins, a connected relationship and need to be right with God  Q: I'm 18 years old, I've always been seen as the "good Christian kid" though I hate to admit I've never actually discovered God. I've always struggled to believe. The last few years I've struggled extremely with sin, I was online and did some horrendous stuff related to sexual sins, I was drawn into it, continued doing ), and fell into a cycle of porn... which then led to stealing lying and other bad things for me to be able to aid this addiction.  I feel horrendous that not only have I sinned, and denied God so many times, but I've also tempted hundreds of guys (through inappropriate videos) into them sining as well.  Then I met a great guy I become best friends with at a Christian camp and fully told him all of this from start to finish. He's be a good friend, but now he likes me as more than a friend...and so keeps doing inappropriate things towards me over face ti...

Here is more info on sexual sins and the importance of purity before marriage. We are not like those in the world, we are to be holy. Just because you can be forgiven doesn’t mean you should commit sin. Premarital sex is a sin and is visibly stated in the Bible and warned against.  If your aware that’s it’s a sin don’t do it because then you are going in to it knowing it is sin and rebelliously doing it anyway....and thats wicked; not living righteously and obediently . Believers live by the righteous nature not the sin nature. It is not that it is not a good thing to do, it is commanded just as being equally yoked is. Those who are righteous want to do what is right and do it.  “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. ...

Q: It’s bad to have sex before marriage even if you were already married but then got divorced and for example your in your mid 30s would that still be a sin? A: Yes. A few things to note to help you going forward.  While that whole thing sounds complicated, but here’s how you should think about it:  1. It is a sin to have sex with anyone you aren’t married to. Take the story of the Woman at the Well in John 4. She had married and divorced 5 husbands and was now sleeping with a man she wasn’t married with, and Jesus pointed that out as a sin she was living in. Does it mean she couldn’t be forgiven? No but her life needed to change so her life choices would fall into line with what God commands & expects; He designed us to be living in righteousness, and believers are to do so.  But also 2. we need to recognize the woman at the well wasnt a believer until after Jesus talked w her.  So holy living *after* salvation is important. If you were "saved" before that...