CounselingChristians

Q: at 24 I finally got right with God. I had finally & easily given up drugs but it only lasted 2 weeks.  Sin & Satan came at me hard, and I lost sight of God just a couple months after, and i caved and went back to everything, except I became worse. I became an evil person, someone i don't recognize at all; obviously i'm not evil in like a danger to society way, but i mean living in the most sin i've ever done, cussing more than ever before, i'm irritable, i drink, i've become so angry and cold. I think the absolute worse part of all of this, and this is so so bad, but I don't want to give up the drinking and medical marijuana, i don't want to give up some aspects of my sinful lifestyle- I want to change, but i don't if that makes sense, i guess i'm not willing to move forward, just stuck in this pit of suffering, & hate who i've become, but i can't get out of it. Every day is the same now, i'm stuck in a vicious cycle. I am ...

Q: Please help. I am sick. Absolutely sick. My husband and I got married about a month ago. I was so certain that this was what God wanted for us.  Since then I have rededicated my life to Christ. We joined a church. My son even got saved.  ...but last night, I was enlightened that as a woman of divorce, God commanded me to remain single or go back to my ex husband. And yes, as ashamed as I am, I was living as an adulterer. But, I have begged forgiveness from God, literally on my knees in tears. I am distraught.  I love my husband and we have been stead fast in making God a strong part of our marriage. We pray nightly together. We do daily devotionals. Church every Sunday. I want to go to Heaven more than anything in the world. Idk what we are supposed to do. My husband and I have a blended family that we love dearly. I’m so scared. Please help. A: So.... if you are saved, & now have that understanding, though it was adultery, it was dealt with in Christ on the cross ...

Q: When my husband and I are in disagreement about something he will hurt me with his words. Yesterday he told me I am a fake Christian and not genuine since he can't recall me ever bringing anyone to Christ given how long I have been in relationship with Jesus (many years) and kind of scoffed about. He says I'm all show and not a real Christian. He even called me a faithless Godless heathen recently. It did make me second-guess my walk with Christ and wonder if I'm doing it right. I do love Jesus with all my heart and desire to walk with him until my last breath. I do try and model Christ-like behaviour as much as possible. Although I am a shy, anxious and awkward person at times, I don't hide my faith and I'm proudly Christian. Ultimately the goal is salvation and souls, and I do hope to help bring people to Jesus. I have a non-Christian friend mum who I pick up every Sunday for church and her two kids as she asked for a ride once and so I have been picking her up...

Q: Need suggestions regards of myself and my own healing as I’m soon to be 28 and I have zero friends, no job and am disappointed in life.  I have friends from high school or middle school and I don’t keep in contact as they started their own lives or I’m always put on the back burner or they just moved away and had their own lives. It’s been 10+ years since I had a female (same sex) friend seems like after I got a relationship the timing wasn’t good or he would disapprove of. Or they wouldn’t stick and end up treating me horrible such as A. Being my friend and stealing B. Being a friend and trying to get with my partner. Or C both. Either way I haven’t had the best situation with getting or having friends within my adult years!  It’s been very rough. I feel such regret and pain even hate and jealousy which I know isn’t what a person should be. I just don’t know how to to deal with I had a kid after a great job and lost it (was fired for maternity leave) and I felt that was ...

I am Christian and am a member at my local Baptist church but secular counseling is frowned upon by them. I got a therapist and they put me on medication.  A: Your pastors are a gift from God who shepherd and guide you into biblical truth and in holy living. Don't disregard their counsel. Doing so shows your disrespecting God, and not going a path that follows the biblical worldview, which you claim as a Christ follower.  I would guide towards switching to a Biblical Counselor. They do in fact recommend medication and send you to doctors when necessary. Sometimes they suggest medication temporarily while they work the rest of the problem out with you.  Even something as simple as sleeping medication or supplements can be damaging to your body. For example your body produces melatonin. If you use a supplement it can prevent your body from properly making it in the future (and even cause further damage), making your sleep issue a life long problem. Meds and supplements are...

Q: I could use some prayers and/or Bible verses.  I've created a very safe, little bubble for myself over the years (due to trauma), and whenever big (and good!) changes come my way "to pop the bubble", my anxiety and nerves shoot through the roof. I just recently got a new job after being unemployed for over a year, and it's a job that I prayed for. I don't know if it's imposter syndrome trying to set in or a fear of failing or both, but whatever it is, I don't feel like I'm good enough for the job, I'm scared that it won't work out, I'm scared that my new employer will think I'm stupid, I'm scared of making mistakes, etc. I'm having all of these thoughts and I can't go back to my safe bubble. A: God calls Christians out of their comfort zone. Were nit to hide in the barracks when we are soldiers of the Lord, serving and following Jesus. We're enlisted in His Army, and in a spiritual battle. That includes not living fir...

Q: How to move out of an emotionally and mentally abusive situation with no life guidance, parents or money A: It depends if your married, living in sin with a significant other or just in a relationship with that person. And what the issues are.  If in a relationship, it sounds unequally yoked, that the person who is sinning against you is unsaved. If that's the case, it is expected since they are not born again, so God hasn't transformed them, which means they can only live out the sin nature, which is sinning. They cant do anything but that, ( Read Genesis 6:5, Ecclesiastes 9:3 , Isaiah 53:6, Romans 8:7–8, Galatians 5:19-21, Titus 3:3, Ephesians 2:3, Romans 5:12, Psalm 14:3, Romans 7:18, Psalm 51:5, Jeremiah 17:9, Galatians 5:17, John 3:19–20). So you cant have any other expectation. Which is why we who are in Christ, are to love others as God loved us [we were enemies of God, yet he went to extreme lengths and cost for us]. We are likewise to show love, patience, grace, me...

Q: God says He is always with us right? My husband of 14 years was arrested last month for dv abuse against me, he spent some time in jail, more in the psyche ward. He was never the spiritual leader he promised to be. In fact, just in the past few days, after many many sermons about testing and self-examination, he has come to the realization that *he is not a Christian*. I have no idea if he will ever give his life to to Christ.  There's several mental illnesses involved and he went off meds a few years back and has been iffy at best with his meds and therapy for these since. He has been abusive verbally, mentally, emotionally for years and there's been porn involved, of a particular grostedque nature and our marriage has never been consummated. I thought we were passed that years ago, but my discovering his backslide is what triggered the incident. He has rages several times a weeks, most days really, often more than one a day. There's more issues but that's enough t...