CounselingChristians

Q: I need some advice. I’ve prayed over it and I’ve tried to be patient with it. I’ve just got engaged to my amazing, wonderful fiance. We are both Christian’s and read the word on a daily.  Right now I struggle the most with resentment or anger. Not towards him, but one of his family. My future brother in law had an affair with his fiance's best friend. Both have kids. I’m friends with the fiance. He started to bring his mistress around and my future in-laws are pushing me to be close with her. I tried, but can’t find myself to do that. I can’t look at either of them without disgust or anger. I tend to avoid them when they’re in the room. My fiance seems to struggle with it too, especially since the kids are being affected by it. He prefers to keep his distance right now too. I’ve watched my cousins struggle when their parents got involved with affairs so it feels a bit more personal. I’ve prayed to God to give me patience so I can be more kind. I’ve tried but I can’t help but not...

Re: trust & faith husband isn't committing any form of sexual sin with female partner in firefighter/police/military/similar or any job Q:  Need godly advice. I have trust issues, so I’m not sure if that is getting in the way of how I’m thinking right now. My husband is a firefighter. Currently, he has a female partner who is single and has messed up and knowingly had an affair with someone. I understand that is her past and can’t hold that to her now. Anyway, my husband started to tell little lies, but it went on for 7 months before he told me the truth. It wasn’t anything bad, but hiding chewing from me, when I asked what he bought, since he used a card he would lie to my face and stuff like that. He also texted his female partner drunk, nothing sexual. He’s just overly nice to her. Texting her to have a great vacation and birthday, telling her happy birthday he hopes she has the best day. All that said, I just need some Godly advice. I know it’s not cheating, but I kinda fe...

Q: So within the last couple weeks I found out my husband had a month long affair with his co-worker. Before finding out, I had mention numerous times that I felt like they were building an emotional attachment to one another but my words kept getting brushed off by him.  Me and him were having issues for months beforehand and I was less than encouraging due to my own lack of healing. Did I push him to a point of feeling like someone else wanted him? After finding out, we went to marriage counseling the next day, and I stayed for a week.  Now I’m at my moms 4 hours away with our daughters. I want to work it out and he kind of does too, but I think he mostly wants to not miss out on the relationship with our daughters. He’s kind of begging me to come back at this point.  He works in law enforcement and owes the department a year of commitment so he can’t quit his job and still has to work with the woman he had an affair with. His chief handled the situation professionally...