CounselingChristians

Q: Need suggestions regards of myself and my own healing as I’m soon to be 28 and I have zero friends, no job and am disappointed in life.  I have friends from high school or middle school and I don’t keep in contact as they started their own lives or I’m always put on the back burner or they just moved away and had their own lives. It’s been 10+ years since I had a female (same sex) friend seems like after I got a relationship the timing wasn’t good or he would disapprove of. Or they wouldn’t stick and end up treating me horrible such as A. Being my friend and stealing B. Being a friend and trying to get with my partner. Or C both. Either way I haven’t had the best situation with getting or having friends within my adult years!  It’s been very rough. I feel such regret and pain even hate and jealousy which I know isn’t what a person should be. I just don’t know how to to deal with I had a kid after a great job and lost it (was fired for maternity leave) and I felt that was ...

Q: There has been something weighing heavily on me for a while, and I just ask for godly, but gentle and kind response. Growing up, I was always taught and always intended to wait until marriage. I was as dead set as I could be, and I never had any temptations about it… until I got to college. It’s no excuse, but I was disconnected from everyone I knew and my spiritual support, and with that I fell away somewhat.  So, I had sexual temptation for the first time ever, and I didn’t know how to handle it, and I eventually “gave in”. It’s been a few years now, and I’ve asked God for forgiveness and repented, but I’m far too ashamed to tell anyone of faith, especially my close friends and parents. I saw my close friends, who are all married now, get excited about being with their husbands for the first time, and I heard how special it is to learn and experience it together. I feel like I’ve ruined everything in that regard. That I’ve not only ruined myself, but ruined what was supposed t...

Q: I can't stop the self hatred and extreme anger I feel towards myself.  My husband died a little over a year ago from complications of a stroke. He had a massive stroke on February 19, 2024 and passed away a few weeks later on March 6, 2024 from complications that developed afterwards. We had spent the late afternoon he had his stroke running a couple little errands. Then when we got home that evening, I went and did some work on the computer (I used to sell on Etsy) and then washed my hair. At one point, I went to our bedroom because I wanted to tell my husband something but I saw the door to the master bathroom, that's attached to the master bedroom, was closed. This was maybe an hour after we got back home. I remembered that he had complained of irregularity earlier that day, so instead of interrupting him, I walked out of the bedroom to give him some alone time. I came back maybe a half hr later and still saw the bathroom door closed.  This time I had an instinct that m...