Is it a sin to have sex before marriage if you are engaged? *

Q:  Is it okay to have sex before marriage if you already know for sure you’re going to marry the person you are dating, & it’s just a matter of time before it happens? I know sex before marriage is a sin but do you think it can be forgiven if you end up marrying that person afterwards anyways?

A: Right now ypu are living outside of God's Will. You need to get your life straightened out. 

First, No one knows for sure theyre going to marry that person. They could die today, or before the wedding. You could realize you need to flee that relationship b4 your trapped for life in it. 

Secondly, If you are actually saved, all your sins are forgiven... but why would you purposefully commit a sin just because you know God forgives? We can't use God to clear our conscience so that we feel free to do whatever we want. Its a sin, and as a Christian you should be abstaining from all sin as much as you possibly can. Jesus bore the wrath of God for all your sins. Do you ever wonder what he actually went through for every one/all of your sins??

Thirdly, God designed that gift for in marriage only. Outside of that it is fornication. Why would any Christian live in rebellion as the heathen? God is watching you have sex and you just ignore that? Not sure how a believer could do that. And you are causing the other person to sin as well. 

Also if the person you are seeing respects you and actually loves you they wouldnt try to get you to have sex before marriage. Plus you shouldnt date or marry anyone not an actual mature believer. They might turn out to be a wolf or false convert and you dont find out your stuck in a hellish marriage for life unequally yoked. If you're the one trying to presdure for sex, then you're causing the other person to sin too. And I would question if your salvation is genuine, due to willfully willing to be rebellious towards God. 

If theyre pressuring you, dump them; your future is at stake. 80 yrs of your life. It isnt worth it. It's like Esau who threw away all his blessings and inheritence [sold his birthright] for 1 bowl of stew.  Sex outside marriage is ridiculously not worth doing that. 

Jesus said if your hand causes you to sin, its better to cut it off and enter Heaven thsn go to Hell with your full body. 

Right now in your life, you should be deeply studying the Scriptures, wearing the full armor of God, maturing in faith and as a person, and living righteously. 

Go to God in prayer and repent of your sexual thoughts, and cut off that relationship if it hits on above noted things. If you were the one pressuring, go to the person and ask forgiveness and then do what needs to be done [even if it means walking away]. *Don't embrace demons nor join to one just because you desire that relationship. Desires can be sinful and lead us astray. Temptation, desires and distraction from the truth cloud ones judgment on important matters like a relationship [when it is not a chaperoned courtship with purpose]. I would go so far as to say idc if your wedding is in a couple days or if you $5k for wedding stuff already. Cut your losses and go free before its too late. 

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