Rude comments or replies?

Q: Why do people comment rudely?

A: How do you know they meant it that way? 

There is something called judging righteously, which is accepted in the Christian faith. If you’re doing something that’s wrong or unacceptable a believer will, in love, try to guide you to the right way. 

One of the problems today is the one reading a toneless text has made assumptions on what a person meant, without knowing how they meant it and the intention of their heart. They couldve done their best to express something, or bcuz of age and how shortly they said or commented (vs detailed). The best thing to do to avoid misunderstanding is kindly ask "pls clarify" or kindly say "what did you mean by that? 🙃". 

Other times the person is in fact doing what Scripture says to:

Proverbs 15:31

"The ear that heeds correction attains to life, but he who scorns reproof goes astray."

Proverbs 27:5

"Open rebuke is better than hidden love."

2 Timothy 4:2

"Preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and instruction."

James 5:19-20

"Brothers, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone turns him back, let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins."

Galatians 6:1

"Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him gently, looking to yourselves, lest you too be tempted."

Ephesians 4:29

"Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear."

Colossians 3:16

"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God."

‭‭John‬ ‭7:24‬ ‭

Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.” ‭‭

I Corinthians‬ ‭6:3‬ ‭

you, are you not unworthy to judge the smallest matters

Admonishing and rebuking are important acts of love and care among believers just as church discipline is. When we bring something to your attention in a spirit of love, gentleness and humility, we can help each other to grow and mature in their faith.

In fact, those who love Christ should be grateful and appreciative of someone caring enough to approach you to share something, and you should be humbly considering it, praying on it and seeing if there is something you should self correct. That person who spoke to you - is being a blessing to you. 🤗🙏

Let us be humble and correctable Christ followers, not prideful and stubborn like the unsaved. 

God bless. 

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