Should I return to a church *

Q: Should I return to a former church?

I left a previous church several months ago. I was hurt because of a specific person there. I recently learned that you should only leave the church if it teaches something that doesn't align with the Bible's teachings. If you want to leave the church because of personal matters, don't. But I left because when I addressed the problem with my pastor to fix the matter, she said she'll do something about it but after months of waiting that person was still constantly hurting me. I got so down so I decided to leave. When I left, my pastor never even wanted a chance to talk me over about leaving and let me leave.

Was my decision wrong of leaving the church? The one who was hurting me was exhibiting homosexuality and does things that only targets to hurt me, especially words.

Ps. I recently found out she addressed the issue and that person left the church. I also have 2 family members in leadership positions there.

What should I do?


A: There are no female pastors, so it is good you left, that church actually had no pastor and the congregation is sinning & not under God's blessings because they embraced her in a man's position; designed and commanded by God.

In the future, you need to follow the biblical guidelines for addressing hurts and sins, and not run away from the problem. And, (then) if it turns out you are partially responsible or are actually the problem you need to humbly correct yourself and all will go well. 🙂

Scripture says theres a chain of command for escalations. Matt 18 tells us:
👉 Go to the person directly, if it doesnt resolve, go to 2 others and have them try to help fix it. If that doesnt work bring it to the decons, if that doesnt work them bring it to the pastor, and if that doesnt work it is brought b4 the whole church, and they vote to remove the person from the church... until they repent and are 🤗 restored to fellowship.


And finally, in your particular situation, just because you have family who put themselves under a false authority in a disobedient and false church you def should not return. We do not follow after our family at expense of obedience to God and His Word.  The below resources will help you examine these isdues further and I hope it blesses you as you remain open minded and open to being obedient to God in what he tells is in Scripture on all these matters, for your own benefit and blessing. 

I hope this helps you 🙂.


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