Concerned friend loss over vices change *

Concern over judgment for stop smoking.

Q: I don’t want to drink/smoke anymore and I don’t know how to tell my best friend. i’m afraid she may judge me or lose interest in me. She is my only true friend and i don’t know how to go about this. please pray for me and advise.

A: Alright, nice decision on deciding to stop
At minimum, for the sake of your health it sure is a good decision.

You could start by telling her you have been convicted, by your personal faith and loss of interest, and want cut on your consumption of such things, maybe from smoking daily to twice in a week or so? With time, you'll drop this vice finally. 

And then, let her just deal with it as you go abiut change you are convinced and convictrd to follow through with. She might follow your lead and see there's no good for smoking and drinking so 😀 you might influence her to stop too. Win win & lead by example; really conquer it. 

Along the way just trust God, and fill your life with people after God's heart. Plus if it is a real friend they would respect you and your choices. If they dont... God doesnt want that person in your life anymore and you are free to be led by Him to godly solid people worthy to be in your life.

As a general suggestion: Try to meet up at the local coffee shop, local mom and pop deli, or dessert place instead of the back alley at school or parking garage exit, etc, since smokers gravitate to certian areas that support their habit. Change the location and there's less time for the habit. Plus it helps prevent you being drawn back into those vices because of second hand smoke smell etc.

Here are resources for you and your friend if you want to share them with her at some point. God bless!

Smoking
Marijuana
Alcohol


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