Sexually abused & afraid to be around that gender

Q:
Is it a sin to be gay if youre uncomfortable around men, but want to have a relationship? (* from ages 6-14 I was molested by my grandfather, and makes me quite uncomfortable around men now)


A: We are to live in the world and not hide away. And live properly in the design God made us for. We are not to follow the ways of the wicked who harmed us nor be pulled into lifestyles and sins that displease God.

With that said, God gives us the strength and helps to go through this fallen world day by day. He gives us lots of stories in S ripture to show us that with God in our lives we can trust Him and he will help us through this hard time. 

This fallen sin stained world is saddening a lot, but our joy is in Jesus and Scripture says believers long for the day the Lord changes it (sin free new Heaven and new Earth) and we live out a wonderful eternity with Him.

God will help you through this.

I heard this testimony the other day and was so surprised it was his past, but also know traumas I went thru too, and that God can and will have a way for us to overcome them. Lean on Him. 


Help regarding Identity Crisis


If your parents are unaware of what your grandather has done, you really need to have that conversation with them. They need to protect you from him and help you get help to overcome the past, and live free, and to go on to living a good life. 

Begin the healing journey with a Biblical Christian Counselor  here.

God bless.


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