Unequally Yoked counsel - forces false beliefs*

Q: My spouse says he believes in God but not the Bible itself (because he says it’s man written). I tried to explain about it being inspired and the Word of God.  In some areas of conversation he agrees but also doesnt believe other things in the Bible.

We have been having religious discussion for 3 days now. He had asked where Hell is. He starts in on how do I not know and that it’s in the center of the earth. I said yes some people do think that because it’s the hottest. I said but I am not God, yet Scripture seems to say it is below. Wherever it is, it is. That made him mad because I just don’t say yes you’re right.

At some point he stated he’s not a sinner. I explained the Bible says we all are sinners, and that is why Jesus Christ came for us. So now he keeps saying I calling him a sinner. I say it’s not true because the Bible says we are sinners and it speaks the truth. He is upset that I don’t agree with him.

He doesn’t want to be with me and has gotta so angry that he tried to hurt himself twice this weekend.

And said that it’s my fault he has to go that far because I just wont acceptance his beliefs. He thinks I’m brainwashed by the Bible and the trust I put in it.

Gets so upset with me because when he says something that I for the most part I know is not in the Bible, it starts these big blow outs and then I’m called a religious nut, psycho religion person.

I try so hard to be loving, caring, kind, all the right way, but it’s like it is all fine until I disagree with something in religious matters. He has views not taught in Scripture or twists what the Bible says. (I don’t say anything that is meant to get at him it just does from his view).

He wants me accept to what he believes as if its true, but also to agree with it.  I reject that and when he is wrong I say I know that’s not what it says - he gets so angry.

I hearing a person out on what theyre saying they believe. But will in truth and love not agree when they are in error.

But he says he can agree and/or accept my belief, but why I can’t his?!

I don’t ask him to go to church. I also do my devotional by myself.

My family tells me to leave him. And yes I go back and forth with myself on that consideration.

I know to give it to God and let him work in him but it’s like what I can do on my end, and to keep calmness?

A: Those not saved cannot understand the things of God as they are blind to it. Blind to truth. Blind to spiritual matters.

He may agree to some views because he grew up in a Christianized country, may have agreed to some things he heard in church as a youth, or some parts which seem like common sense. But typically the unsaved wont agree with Scripture - as it states what God has said and declared as truth. The unsaved live in rebellion to God & to truth, they flee from it and hide from it and Him. (Theyre in the sin nature, love sin & are spiritually dead). They twist it all to suit their sins. 

Unless God opens his heart and draws him to himself and to the Gospel, he wont hear it nor embrace it. In the situation you presented, he has to obey the Gospel before any change will happen. Before he will align with God (through the new nature; spiritual life) and embrace Scripture as fully authoritative.

Here is a gospel presentation that reveals the holiness of God, how we fall far from that perfect standard, (which reveals us as sinners - who need the Savior). NeedGod.com

Ask him to watch it, and then ask "if he had ever understood the gospel that way". See if God has convicted him and if his heart was softened. If he with a contrite heart relents, repents, and turns to Christ, or if he starts to see those things are true, then there's hope. Keep praying either way cuz until he leaves you or dies - there's hope.

Just remember you cannot break this marriage covenant, you are stuck in it. It doesnt matter if you married and then got saved, or you disobeyed God by marrying (unequally yoked)  as a believer to a non believer. You are stuck in it. God is still soverign and in control, and will work this out for whatever the end result is. You have to just live out the Christian life "before him"; it will either be ok with him to stay, or drive him to leave you. If he becomes abusive you are free to divorce [if the behavior is unrepentant unchanging] or abandons you for someone else then you are free to divorce and remarry. But if you run off and divorce him... you can never ever remarry or you are living adulterously and that endangers you to judgment.

He (through satanic influence) is trying to get you to abandon truth and embrace lies. To get you to embrace doctrines of demons and abandon your beliefs. Tbh, He might be possessed with a demon [I think those cases are rare but he is trying to harm himself over this, so that has a possible connection]. Get him help through the hospital. If he is open to it you can find a biblical counselor who might be able to help; sometimes best for others to confront or help him understand biblical truths vs their spouse. Pray to God for him, ask your church to pray as well. And just hold to the truth. This is sporitual warfare. 

You just....Live out a godly life. Just do it all in love💜. Live out life as Christ shining through you, regardless of his behavior. You can only control yourself, and by doing those well... it gives a witness to him of God working in your life. Keep being the godly wife witness by your life at home, growing in faith and holiness.  God can use these issues to grow you, keep you close to Him and plant seeds in your husband (that hopefully will result in salvation).

Trust God.
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Scripture tells us to be an approved workman, to have an answer for your hope (given in gentleness and respect), to hide the Word in our hearts, to know it and meditate on it. 

In order to help minister to him and anyone around you, you need to know Scripture and have such answers. 

Here are some resources that answer a lot of the skeptic questions typically asked or objected by unsaved folk.

He has a diff view of God than Scripture which means he is living in idolatry having a false god he believes in. This is always the mindset of those unsaved & blinded by Satan. You cant change that belief, but you def can disagree with his inaccurate views, and explain why it is incorrect [if he is willing to hear it]. Doesnt matter if he disagrees. What matters is you holding firm to the biblical truth. 🙂

Here is a study on the holiness of God and resources on the believers life walked in holiness. These are for you to go through so you can better minister to your husband when God/Christian conversations do come up, by revealing truth to him (as simply and shortly as possible). If he gains interest in who God really is, or he gets saved then you can share it with him.

Here are resources for emotions and related self counseling to help you grow in the areas that will best help you live out that godly life before God and your husbands eyes

Here are more great resources, for you to be blessed by, for Growing Believers. 🥰

God bless.