Should I divorce a atheist spouse?
Q: I have a hardcore atheist husband who doesn’t want his children raised in the church. I married him knowing he wasnt a believer, but... I really want out of this marriage. I just don’t see a fruitful future. We dont have kids yet, & cant see having them with him. I am concerned about that and being stuck with him long term.
Can I divorce him?
A: Decisions have consequences.
You chose to marry him knowingly in rebellion to God and the command not to be unequally yoked. You cant expect blessings by doing something like that. You couldve ran at the alter, and saved your life. Now, you are in the marriage so you have to stay 🤷🏻♂️. You are stuck. Marriage covenants are for life. *This is a 80 year decision and isn't to be be made lightly, no marriage plans should proceed without the green light by your Pastor.
Too many believers do not go get godly counsel from their Pastor, and, do not go through a couples class at church (where the believer would be be clearly told not to marry the one theyre seeing, and church discipline would kick in if the believer tried to go forward anyway). People avoid the pastor on this because they know it is rebellion and dont care. They run off and do what they want. Which shows they love the fiance more than Jesus, more than God, and thus more than righteous living.
However, He isnt a believer so while he is the leader in the home, he is not the spiritual leader over you and the kids. In this case "you are to obey God over men."(2) No matter what he thinks or demands... you live out the Christian life which you were called into by God.
Just take them to church and teach them openly at home about Jesus and the Bible. If he abandons you or divorces you then let him go. You are free to remarry a godly man. If you leave him except for abandonment, unrepentant adultery or unrepentant abuse then you can never remarry.
Live out your life in a godly way before him, and grow in maturity and in righteousness, perhaps he will get saved. Pray for his salvation.
Here are some resources to help on this.
On Marriage Matters
* see marriage & divorce 2 pt
Benefits of atheists kids going to church. "Let kids get an understanding of Christianity from Christians so they can make their own informed decisions about God."
Helps for answering your spouses questions or objections on faith matters
Verses
(1) 1 Cor. 7:10-17
But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife. But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not divorce her husband. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband. For otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave. The brother or the sister is not enslaved in such cases, but God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will lead your husband to salvation? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will lead your your wife to salvation? Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let him walk. And so I direct in all the churches.
Romans 12:18
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
Hebrews 12:14
Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord.
Matthew 5:9
“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
Romans 14:19
So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.
Isaiah 26:3
You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you
(2) Acts 5:29:
"But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men."
#peace #live in peace
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