Help me reach my friend for Christ

Q: I have a professing Christian friend who has a weakness for men. She shared with me that she recently fornicated with a good male friend of hers more than once and she wants to do it again but she knows it’s not right. She knows she should end the affair with the guy but because they have great chemistry within their friendship, enjoying what they’re doing and for being friends for so long it’s hard for her to. She said they never dated or intended to. They both find each other physically attractive but never had thoughts of wanting to pursue more than a friendship with one another. The first time it happened one night when they were together they said they just got “caught up in the moment” and said that it was never planned on either ends for them to have sex that night.

She knows what she’s doing is wrong so she purposely shys away from prayer and reading her Bible because she knows it’s possible than God can change her mind but she doesn’t want to do so as of yet. Bottom line is I don’t want to lose my friend to the enemy. I want to help her live for Christ. 


A: Prayers. This is a growing issue today. 
I will be honest,  It sounds like shes likely not saved. ‭ If someone is saved they have & live in a new righteous nature. That nature desires to live holy and hates sin. They actively seek to conquer sin where found, not run to do it, (nor put themselves in situations where tempted to sin). 

A big problem today is false converts. They embraced a false gospel and are really just idolatrous moralists. They arent saved, so they have not been transformed by God. If they had they have a proper fear of God. If they dont, they try to hide, avoid scripture, prayer and church due to conscience conviction (as Scripture says of sinners) cuz they know theyre living wrongly. 

Philippians 2:12: " therefore...workout your salvation with fear and trembling"

"Have you not heard, if any man is in Christ he is a new creature old has pass away all things have become new". 2 Corinthians 5:17


Find a way to caringly bring it up. Ask her "do you have no fear of God or a lack of it and need to stop sinning?" And ask "do you think maybe you are a false convert? That you are a judas and not a peter? I am concerned bcuz your life isnt showing the fruit of someone who is born again. I care🫂 about you a lot and 📖 Scripture tells us to examine ourselves, 💜 so lets take a look - since its so important..."🙏

Ask if she believes these basics of Christianity.

Ask her to go thru the self examination process (with honesty, sobriety, and humility).

Share the Gospel with her. Have her confirm this is the message she embraced, or needs to today. 

Share what she needs to know about God, that shes not grasping. 

And about the believer & sin, thats shes not grasping.

Call her to fully surrender her life to Christ and (once & for all) turn her back on the ways of the world. Then plug her into a bible focused local church so they can help her mature in the Faith. 

*Tomorrow isnt guaranteed for anyone. 160k die daily. Plead with her to get right with God before its too late for her.

It is possible she has a lack of biblical guidance and is a weak believer, so show you love her by taking her through this, ministering to her out of love. 

God bless

PS. On the issue of her fornication. It will be resolved if she gets saved. The righteous live as those who live holy lives. Yes they grow in holiness, but they cease much sin instantly at salvation, or conquer and have victory over the ones remaining. And, she will no longrer put herself in positions where she might sin.

She loves Jesus more than anyone; and easily will have no problem cutting off and ending that relationship totally & immediately. 
*Women cannot have friendships with men. Naive women are decieved about this, & men who try are wolves (looking for opportunities to have sex with her even if it takes 15 yrs). Cut off all opposite sex friendships. Period.



PPS. Reader, if you share this page with your friend/family member you have concern about, and they get saved, the below will be of great benefit to them as they begin their true Christian walk. 



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