The Jones's or Christ?
Q: I know life doesn't always go in our ways. I left my HS friends and now I'm all alone. I am too embarrassed for them to see me, because some have their car some have their own houses and some even have a relationship. I see them and it hurts. In a Christian perspective. How can I manage this?
A: Depending on your age, you mightve heard of something called "Keeping up with the Jones's", its basically 'coveting and wasting money' to keep up with what others have that you desire to have too. It is a sinful minded mentality.
So, in this area, it seems you are focused on the temporary things of this world and your heart and eyes are not on Jesus. It is possible you are a new believer or one who hasnt grown in understanding about a godly righteous life that follows Christ. Scripture says things like life is but a vapor, old things pass away, we are new creations, we live in the world but not of it. Do not desire what others have, follow Jesus. God provides everything we need.
It is a sinful minded thinking not a Christian mindset or Christian worldview, to think or dwell on things in discontentment and dissatisfaction mindset, but also is a prideful attitude, (and an assault on God), if you are wanting to be like the sinful joneses who focus on what earthly things they have or dont have and covet, vs keeping your heart and mind focused on eternal things.
But deeper dives in Scripture to understand God and the Christian mindset are areas you might best pursue so you can mature well in faith, persevere in this sin stained world & win the race -and not be like lot's wife or the foolish virgins. Lets get past the milk to the meat as those who treasure and devour God's Word and have joy and peace in the truths and everlasting water Jesus provides.
I hope this helps and blesses as you grow to understand and mature in the Faith.
God always provides, if we are saved & following Jesus.
On Understanding God's Holiness & the Christian life
Help understanding about certain sins and how to conquer them, (see also above on 10 Commandments). For those who live in sin and die in their sins "earth is as close to Heaven as theyll ever get", do not envy those people. Your eternal destination and theirs is not the same.
The Believer & Eternal Rewards
Now... If those HS friends arent Christian, your purpose and goal for meeting up with or interacting with them (now/from now on) should be 👉to share the Gospel.
And if by chance they say anything about those things you have concern about... tell them God provides everything you need and you lack nothing, but you do have an eternal inheritance coming (and rust and moth nor bad weather, or disasters can ever take it from you). Plus because you are Saved, Jesus is your treasure. You live joyfully and in peace while in this Fallen sin stained world, and look forward to eternity with Him and the Redeemed.
Then ask if they have got right with God yet and are of the Redeemed. If they say no... share the Gospel with them and encourage them to embrace it.
*Here is a short Gospel vid you can share
*The below has an Evangelism section to help equip you well to obey the Great Commission.
As far as relationships...
only seek to date, court and marry a woman who is a real born again Christian. You need to vet her before you officially date or court towards marriage. You might need to deal with growing in the area of self control and sexual purity before you are ready to pursue such a relationship and its potential responsibilities should you find someone worthy to pursue. God might be wanting you to grow more & stronger in those areas (to get you ready) before He will bring a godly woman into your life.
I also suggest you look for her in your local church (where you are to be an active member at). Here people will get closer to you and can know if/when you are marriage material and can possibly then guide you to a few verified believing women who may be a match. Do not be alone together without a chaperone, and never go to each others homes. Respect her, God, and her parents, & your church leadership & authority; as shepherds over your faith and as godly guides in Christian living.
Until you are ready to pursue a relationship.
*Focus on reading the Bible
*Grasping the deeper things of Scripture in studying it and going through theology studies
*Growing into maturity in the faith
*Getting strong in self control (and sexual purity).
Remember, once married you are the spiritual leader of the home and head as Husband - that is a huge responsibility (and a high calling) which you need to be preparing for and be prepared for living out daily. And esp as one who lives out daily life "loving your wife as Christ loves the Church". So do not jump into or rush anything. All will work out in God's timing.
Understanding and Knowing God's Will
Resources for Believers
*Includes a good section for men, and various helps for Christian living.
God bless
*bookmark this page (& set daily alarms) so you can go through the above contents today & in the coming weeks and month, in a dedicated quiet time at home.
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