Relationship issues with my S/O help. 💔
Q: We've been together for a year, but we argue and there's problems. I want things to be how they were in the beginning. What to do??
A: Well first of all we need to look at what Scripture says about relationships. There were no couple relationships outside of marriage. In Bible times pursuing someone meant first your s/o was vetted to be a mature believer, and then engagement meant you were to be married, but not actually married. It was as legal as marriage and a covenant promise, not completed or finalized till you wed. No man would enter into a agreement or pursue considewe'd. marraige until he could provide for a family and that included having a home to live in. The betrothed man would spend that engaged year preparing the final things to be in place to begin a married life and have a family. The bride would live at home after engagement, and remain pure. They were never alone together. She waited until he called for her and they married. When he called her it was for the day of marriage. It lasted 7 days and everyone was invited. Then then moved into their home and began married life.
On top of that the purpose of marriage wasn't love love love nor selfish happiness and worldly bliss. No. Marriage has a design. Designed by God. And has a purpose.
Here are videos and resources to get educated about this.
Additionally the greco roman lie about love needs to be understood & shattered. And, the reason there's problems in the marriage are various and always leads back to not living rightly as Christians. The man isn't loving his wife and the wife isn't submitting to her husband; both not obeying Scripture. But if they're unequally yoked it's worse because neither of those can happen nor are happening. See 1:05:30 segment here ... then go through the linked videos above.
We need to be going God's way as believers and that's why we obey Scripture and submit to its authority, and we do not follow "feelings or emotions", esp on this matter. That kind of sin is why your drawn away by your lusts and desires and you commit sexual sin, rebel against the unequally yoked command, and wreck your life. Your heart decieves you to think what your caught up in is love but it's not. Not at all. And if you mess around with it, it traps you if you get tangled in it's web, and it leads to destruction.
If your not married, flee any relationship you are in if it's with an unsaved person. Satan presents himself as an angel of light, so do his chidren; dont go by looks! It's deception. If you are married, unequally yoked, you need to live very godly before an unsaved spouse (praying also God saves that spouse before you both die). If your both actually born again Believers, you need to work on yourselves, love one another, sacrificial serve one another, and live for the Lord.
A: Well first of all we need to look at what Scripture says about relationships. There were no couple relationships outside of marriage. In Bible times pursuing someone meant first your s/o was vetted to be a mature believer, and then engagement meant you were to be married, but not actually married. It was as legal as marriage and a covenant promise, not completed or finalized till you wed. No man would enter into a agreement or pursue considewe'd. marraige until he could provide for a family and that included having a home to live in. The betrothed man would spend that engaged year preparing the final things to be in place to begin a married life and have a family. The bride would live at home after engagement, and remain pure. They were never alone together. She waited until he called for her and they married. When he called her it was for the day of marriage. It lasted 7 days and everyone was invited. Then then moved into their home and began married life.
On top of that the purpose of marriage wasn't love love love nor selfish happiness and worldly bliss. No. Marriage has a design. Designed by God. And has a purpose.
Here are videos and resources to get educated about this.
Additionally the greco roman lie about love needs to be understood & shattered. And, the reason there's problems in the marriage are various and always leads back to not living rightly as Christians. The man isn't loving his wife and the wife isn't submitting to her husband; both not obeying Scripture. But if they're unequally yoked it's worse because neither of those can happen nor are happening. See 1:05:30 segment here ... then go through the linked videos above.
We need to be going God's way as believers and that's why we obey Scripture and submit to its authority, and we do not follow "feelings or emotions", esp on this matter. That kind of sin is why your drawn away by your lusts and desires and you commit sexual sin, rebel against the unequally yoked command, and wreck your life. Your heart decieves you to think what your caught up in is love but it's not. Not at all. And if you mess around with it, it traps you if you get tangled in it's web, and it leads to destruction.
If your not married, flee any relationship you are in if it's with an unsaved person. Satan presents himself as an angel of light, so do his chidren; dont go by looks! It's deception. If you are married, unequally yoked, you need to live very godly before an unsaved spouse (praying also God saves that spouse before you both die). If your both actually born again Believers, you need to work on yourselves, love one another, sacrificial serve one another, and live for the Lord.
Here also are resources to help you grow in your faith. From basics to men/women resources, to growing in righteousness to conquering sins and more. So bookmark this page and go through these things today, this week, this month. It will bless you.
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