Married with abused concerns

Q: Married with abused concerns

I’ve been married for the past 3yrs and it’s always been an abusive relationship, we have 2 daughters and I’m just unhappy but I’m scared to leave. Idk if he would ever leave me alone and idk how it would workout with our daughters as he already tries to put them against me. He has cheated on me, hit me, belittled me everything you can think of. We separated for a couple of months.

We ended up getting back together I thought I can move past everything but every time we get into an argument I get flashbacks of when he put his hands on me it makes me scared and it makes me feel uneasy it makes me angry it’s a roller coaster of emotions and idk what to do besides shut down and cry. I’m tired of crying tired of just feeling miserable. I want this sadness to go away 😥


A: This sounds like you need to see a professional biblical counselor. Both for yourself, your husband and you, and your kids.

I'm not sure what the abuse is alleged to be, and whether its not correctable, but you want to be careful not to destroy a marriage if God can change and reconcile you both. For the sake of the covenant and the kids. Plus it could depending on if you divorce wrongly, mean you can never remarry. Tread carefully and get that counseling to know where to go from here.

None of us are perfect and we all fall short, so offer grace, Forgiveness, love, reconciliation and restoration. And leave it with God whom you fully need to trust. 🥰🫂✝️

If he has anger issues this might help. Even if he is not Christian, moral changes can happen. Do your best to love him TO Christ by how you live, talk and behave.  


May God save & restore your marriage and it be one where Christ dwells mightly. 🙏💜



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