21 yr old having issues living at home

Q: I’m 21 and my dad treats me like I’m 12 still. I live at home and I’m not allowed to do some of the things that I want to. If I go to a party my dad always picks me up early cos he wants to go to bed. He still makes me sit in the back of the car which my friends laugh at. I pray God can help. Pray for me. 


A: Are you complaining about his loving care? God doesnt want us to complain, as it is sin. And though disrespecting your dad and you by ungodly teasing, who cares about those friends. Tbvh most childhood, high school and even college friends fade away from your life. In 2 to 3 years you'll be elsewhere making other friends at church. 

He is trying to guide you to live mature and responsible, also to keep you safe. And if it was my home, as a Christian parent I wouldn't let you participate in pagan parties. That's not the lifestyle of Christian holy behavior. Finding godly friends is important. Bad company corrupts good morals, and this nation is full of pagans. I also wouldn't chauffeur you around, but at least your safety is why hes doing it. Any girl can easily be drugged, raped or kidnapped at parties today. Very dangerous. And so called friends still murder those in their friend circle too. Also. Your life shouldn't interfere with his, and it is his home, his rules. I'm glad you have a parent who cares and didn't throw you out when you grauduated High School. Thank God for that, and be grateful. Heed your father's good life & faith advice. And appreciate his rules. God is protecting you through him. 

Go through these resources, write notes, pray about them, repent to God, and then go have a good talk with your dad related to them, your repentance for thinking wrongly and for how your mindset will be going forward as adults.

He loves you and would be glad to have such convos with you. Work on your conversation and communication skills with him, as it will help you in all other areas in life too. 

This has a resource on obeying and honoring your parents that will help you. Note as an adult you still have to honor them, and prayerfully still consider parental advice. 


God bless 😊✨️✝️


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