Husband joined neighbor men to "witness", but drinks there

A few months ago, my husband , a professing Christian, joined a group of non-Christian male neighbors to socialize... with the intention of sharing Jesus with them.  

After becoming a Christian, my husband rarely drank, Now he’s drinking liquor with them every time he’s with them (several drinks already this week). Tonight while out to eat, I suggested divorce. Please pray my husband has a change of heart, stops drinking, returns to Jesus and walks blamelessly before God. Pray my husband chooses to put God/Jesus first, our marriage second, and not gets lost in this group of new friends. And, please pray my husband will never consider nor discuss nor pursue divorce. Please pray God opens his heart, mind and eyes to see that he’s backsliding and becoming worldly… he told me he’s being a great Christian witness to these friends. Pray the devil will not win, but God gives me and my husband the victory through Jesus. Thanks. 


A: Sorry to hear this. 

He definitely shouldn't be drinking with nor joining any non Christian group. Unsaved people pull down weak believers from their faith. I'm not convinced his intentions were to share Christ... but to run towards sin. He would be wise from the start to bring another godly believer with him to witness, and hold him accountable, preventing his sliding into alcohol. Also theres other ways to reach neighbors for Christ; such as Halloween and Christmas oureach at home in the front yard, handing out stuff like coco and chatting, or invite them over for BBQ for Christ, or to church. Hes not at the level where he should be trying to reach these folks for Christ if he hasnt actually conquered his ability to have self control and politely decline alcohol. He cant help, counsel or guide any of them if they come to Christ, since he can be swayed into vices unsaved have. But regardless the truth (of the matter), he should not have met up with people who drink if he lacks self control and holding to biblical principles. He could bring sparkle water or whatever else over, and show believers are different. They dont desire to live holy because they love sin, but he should be an example. It's not 1970 where weak folk are peer pressured to do things, today no one cares if you decline alcohol. It seems more like he's going there to do that. 

My recommendation is for him to go speak to the pastor & mens group, get guidance with alcohol & evangelism, and have others from the group join him at any of those meet ups so he's kept in check, remains accountable to godly living, and doesn't drink alcohol. And the believers can help counsel him in areas he needs to grow in, such as peer pressure/ cowardice/caving and strengthening his faith so he stands firm. They can pray before visiting the neighbors, and go with intention. Wishy washy Christianity with a watered down gospel isn't going to do them guys any good. It may make them false converts or idolatrous moralists, neither whom are saved. So he needs to be studied up, equipped and ready to jump in with intention. Otherwise he's there for other/unholy purposes, and is lying to you.  

Will pray for him, and your possible unequally yoked marriage. Stick with it as God hates divorce. 🙏✝️

God bless

Related 
Christiand and Alcohol, (See pt1 & 2)
http://snsanswers.blogspot.com/2023/01/counseling-alcohol.html


Resources
Probing ones salvation
Self examination 
Biblical Counselors
Resources to help unequally yoked wife live godly before an unbelieving or false convert husband
Resources to strengthen your Faith

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