Affairs, can divorce?

Want divorce. Professing husband w continually affairs asks forgiveness but never changes.

Q: I am feeling weary and so disheartened. My husband has repeatedly been unfaithful, despite his faith and repeated requests for forgiveness. I have forgiven him multiple times, but I am at my limit. Would a divorce be acceptable in God's eyes?

A: No divorce isn't permitted. We are to continually firgive and be Christlike, especially to a spouse who processes Christ. 


He needs the discipleship, counseling and call to repentance and killing that sin which the church elders and godly men need to actively be in his life helping him achieve, lest hes found as a false concert and needs true salvation. 

Has any church discipline been instituted yet? Has he had pastor counsel? Has he gone also to a biblical counselor? 

Are the men from the mens group rallied around him to hold him accountable, call him to repentance, and guide him in holy living as a husband and professing believer? These should be things happening from long ago as soon as it began. As he's strayed from the faith, sinned against God and you, and isnt fearing God. Its possible he needs to do a solid study on God's holiness and attributes so he can see sin as serious as it is, and also how hes doing evil towards God and you. This should and would cause a true believers to flee such sin and live in righteousness, pursuing a life of holiness. 

Heres resources to help you and him. 

Biblical counselor for marriage counseling and individual sin conquering counseling. 
http://counselingchristians.blogspot.com/2023/12/nothetic-biblical-counseling.html

Help conquering the sin of adultery
http://believersanswers.blogspot.com/2025/01/counseling-adultery.html

Have him do a study on the Holiness of God and on the truly wickedness of sin:

Understanding God's Glory & Holiness
https://longertweets.blogspot.com/2023/08/understanding-gods-holiness.html

Understanding Believers & sin 
https://snsanswers.blogspot.com/2022/11/about-sin.html?m=1 

Ensure he understands the Gospel and how marriage is a shadow of the Gospel. NeedGod.com. That we are also as the Bride not to tie Christ to a prostitute (likewise as light and darkness don't mix). And hes to live holy & not defile the marriage bed, showing right love towards God and towards his wife. [*You can ask the decons and elders to have these discussions and share these above linked things with him, and a come to Jesus intervention like call to true salvation].

Marriage Shadow 
https://snsanswers.blogspot.com/2022/10/marraige-shadow.html?m=1

What believers need to know before running off and divorcing 
https://believersanswers.blogspot.com/2025/03/believers-and-divorce-are-remarried.html?m=1

Read the book of Amos. Read the Gospels.

Right mindset, grace forgiveness & love 
http://longertweets.blogspot.com/2023/07/resources-believer-right-mindset.html

Recovering from infidelity
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUp3S56wWUpRwoBV2CuYHUV_XjLjFE_lA&si=bzo5OVjChDXD5LgD

Do get regularly get std testing for yourself, and annually for him, and consider him wearing protection when your intimate so he doesn't give you hepatitis or aids etc. until hes conquerd this horrible adulterous sin. In a way it shows his lack of love towards you in that he doesn't seem to care that he may get an std and give it to you...and ruin your life, or kill you. Get counseling on whether you should abstain from intimacy with him until he conquers this, as you need to protect yourself. As, if he doesnt care, and might give you a serious std, and divorce you leaving you debilitating for life... you need to proceed with caution and under the guidance of a biblical counselor for your own safety too. 

Wear the armor of God, stay close to Christ, stay in the Word, grow in the Fruit of the Spirit and understand all these things well so you can live out the Faith in full trust towards God who is soverign over all and cares for his adopted children. 

Resources for the Married
http://believersanswers.blogspot.com/2025/04/resources-for-those-married.html

Rssources for Believers
https://longertweets.blogspot.com/2022/04/resources-believers.html

God bless

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