Can I be a single mom by choice?

Q: What does the bible say... can you be single mothers by choice? I've tried to look up scripture for it but can't find none. I know I'm still young (I'm 22) and there's still time for me to find a husband but honestly I don't see it in the cards for me. All the men at my church are already married or way older than me. And for the past two years since I've been at the church no one new has stayed. And I'm scared to go on dating websites because you never know these days what men will do. I know I should pray about it, I really want to be a mother one day but I just don't know how I would be able to get a husband without online dating. I was thinking maybe I could be a single mother by choice, but i don't want my kids to not have a father, because kids need a father figure in their life and all the men in my family are bad examples of what fathers/husbands should be. The last time I prayed for a husband a guy did find me on the internet. And we talked for a few months, but he was very manipulative. So I think God put him in my life as a lesson on what i don't want from a husband. I should probably pray about it, I'm just scared that I'll be in my mid to late thirties without children.

I know im young but I just feel like I'm going to be alone forever. I can't move out of my hometown because I dont have a job and only have disability to live on so I'm living with my mom. But right now do volunteer serving in kids ministry.

A: Its not biblical, not righteous minded to want to be a single mom. God designed us to be married to a man, and the fruit and gift in marriage is intimacy and a baby. The husband provides, leads and is responsible for the family, and spiritual lead. We cannot usurp this design to go our own way. I suggest further counsel from your pastor. 

On dating, yes it's hard today if there's currently no godly single men at your church, and youve exhaused referrals from all the godly parents there who have a saved single adult son, or all the leaders connections to saved men they know who are vetted to be saved godly men from all their associations, ministries, and those they know graduating from a Christian institution or graduated and in a job saving and planning for finding/marrying a godly woman. If you've totally exhausted all those references and referrals and connections, then use your single time to be in the Scriptures (going deeper) cuz once you marry and have kids you barely will have time. God will bring a right, godly mature man to you whose pursuing holiness and pursuing what he needs to, to be the leader of the home God's called him to. He's preparing and growing, and not ready yet, as you arent. So keep going abd growing into maturitybin the Faith, and you'll meet when the time is right. Stay in God's timeliness, or you'll suffer from bad choices and its consequences. 

Heres some resources on dating and finding godly suitors. 





Hope these help 

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