Can I cut off my toxic family?
Cut off/toxic family
Q: I’ve hit breaking point and it is time to cut off my toxic family members. Endless amounts of abuse, nastiness, pain over the years and I can no longer tolerate it.
How can I stand firm in this? Where can I go to in the Bible to help me with this.
A: It appears you need more counsel on this. It might be that your new to Christianity or not maturing in the Faith. This can help...
Today 1 in 4 are going no contact with family. This estrangement issue is problematic if the person wanting to exit... professes to be Christian.
We as Christians are not called to cut people off or out so we can live in some "happiness bubble". Our best life isnt here on this fallen temporary planet, nor is our life to revolve around ourself, but Christ. We born again ones are called to minister to the lost, the hurting and unsaved. We are ministers of the Gospel, a light in our family, and Ambassadors of Christ. God placed us in this family for the work he has planned fir us to do there, and as we grow into maturity thru those times in our sanctification walk.
This would benefit you to go through, on topic. Believers Right mindset; grace, forgiveness & love
I've been in a almost 50 year situation with my immediate [broken/mixed] family. We as Christians still have to shine forth Christ and be a godly "draw to Him" towards them. To be like Christ. In our new righteous nature we can achieve this, and by growth in the Fruit of the Spirit.
Sinners behave as they do, cuz of their sin nature. Any who are truly Christian among your family, like you, should be striving to grow in holiness, and to recognize that, so you can behave/respond Christlike, and like God, love them [the unsaved among them] even while they're enemies of God, as God did towards us, and give grace and love & have patience towards the new and weak [true] believers in your family, as they dont know better until they mature in the Faith more, and are discipled more at their church. But they should have a heart that's focused on loving others & living right, even if they fumble at times like falling toddlers. If we love God we naturally love others too. Regardless how they behave.
If you need additional help due to your particular circumstances, to get a godly biblical perspective on the issues, and guidance with a plan to help you go onwards, I recommend contacting a ACBC biblical counselor. They'll really help. 😊✨️
God bless
Footnote:
Calling family or others as toxic is a worldly label. Christians note it simply as "sin". Sinners sin because they're trapped in their sin nature. Lack ability to live as God originally designed them, as theyre spiritually dead. All they can do is sin. But we who are born again, have spiritual life, and the new nature. We have been transformed by God. We see the truth of this, and sad that theyre in that state.
When was the last time you tried actively purposely sharing the Gospel with them? Do you think your in the lifeboat but dont care if theyre sinking with the Titanic? Have you never realized that's what your doing? Its like your jamming to a music soundtrack you like, with headphones on, while in a fire truck, not caring that they're dying in a fully engulfed house in flames. Thats dereliction of duty. God called us to go and proclaim the Gospel. Have you been foung that? Did you even get equipped to? Do you know the Bible well, and deeply? We're you all this time just eating the chow and enjoying the comfy bed the Good General gave you soldier in the Lord's Army... and not doing your duty to study (and wear the armor of God) so you are prepared & can be sent out to fight the spiritual battle?
If so, snap to. And get busy being about the work God has called you to do in Christ.
Study to show yourself an approved workman who is not ashamed.
God bless
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