Husband is terrible, I'm stuck & exhausted
Q: I could use some prayers today. I have been extremely unhappy in my marriage for going on a decade. There are times when I would have had justifiable reasons to divorce and didn’t, now I technically don’t and just feel stuck. I have prayed and prayed.
My husband is extremely unenjoyable. He is a TERRIBLE person to everyone in his life, he is rude and snarky, chronically miserable and disrespectful, and I don’t know a single person who can handle him in more than small doses because he drains the energy from everyone he encounters. He is combative, entitled, and just all around brings misery. I have had people who are very calm and passive tell me their first time feeling anxiety stemmed from being around him. He makes life heavy and hard and he destroys my nervous system. And he has been told by too many people, family members, friends, therapists, pastors, and literally says every one except him is wrong. It’s exhausting.
A: Prayer has to accompany action.
After someone says that one day to him, when you get home, you lovingly say "Honey, I just want you to know while everyone else says xzy about you, and I know you are that way even to me, I love you and wont give up on you. I dont believe God will either, and I hope you do find new life in Christ. He is a miracle worker."
And then lead him through to the Gospel , then or later when he's calm. Tips enclosed.
Also to help you live godly before your husband, and help you grow into maturity in the Faith and holy living, these will bless you.
If you go through these, and get biblical counseling, you'll be equipped with a plan for how to live Christlike before him, have a godly mindset and be able to handle the spiritual warfare that comes daily with being unequally yoked. Plus it will help you in engaging other unsaved folk you know and meet.
He has to see a change in you, before he can see Christ. Likewise if youre progressively shining the Light of Christ in the home, he will be drawn to Jesus.
God bless
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Verses to meditate on:
Proverbs 13:20: "Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm."
Ecclesiastes 7:12: "For wisdom is a defense
Matthew 10:16 "Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves."
Spouse Verses:
Colossians 2:6-8 reminds us:
"Therefore as you have received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, having been firmly rooted and now being built up in Him and established in your faith, just as you were instructed, and overflowing with gratitude.See to it that no one takes you captive through philosophy and empty deception, according to the tradition of men, according to the elementary principles of the world, rather than according to Christ."
And these
Titus 2:4-5
4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,
5 to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 31:10-12
10 An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
Titus 2:4-5
4 ... urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
1 Peter 3:3-4
3 Your adornment must not be merely external... but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
Proverbs 12:4
4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.
Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the Lord.
These verses collectively emphasize the value, trustworthiness, and moral character of a godly wife, highlighting her role in supporting and enriching her husband's life.
1 Corinthians 7:12-14
12 ... if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his believing wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
1 Peter 3:1-2
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
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