Pre divorce, should I toss the cross gift he have me?

Q: This probably sounds dumb, but - My husband wants a divorce, I don't.

He had bought me a cross necklace ( real jewelry ) and I wear it 24/7. It hurts to look at it at times and a part of me wants to rip it off my neck out of hurt and anger. But because it has the cross on it, I don't want to toss it out of guilt because of the symbol of the cross.

Is it wrong of me to get rid of the necklace? Am I just being paranoid you think ?



A: The necklace was given out of love snd reminds you of your Savior who perfectly loved and loves you. Keep it.

Is he professing Christ?
Does he go to church?
Does he have a more neutral or positive vs negative mindset about God?
Is he open to counseling?

I would keep the cross. Tbh you could use it as a springboard for various convos w him.

*"Honey, you know Jesus went to extremes lengths to show his love for us, while we were sinners... we should think like God. Let's get counseling and try to save this marriage."

* "Honey, I know things haven't been going well for us lately, but God is a God who works miracles and restores. This cross is a reminder of that. Let's get counseling and try to fix this so it can be as it was before."

*"Honey, I treasure you and this cross you gave me. I saw this video and wanted your thoughts [show needGod.com video].... I wanted to ask, have you ever really understood the Gospel that way before? God makes all things new in Christ. Wouldn't you like to give your life to Him today? Besides the important reason of salvation... he makes us new. In that newness, theres hope even for our marriage."

The necklace could well be a testimony or convo starter for future gospel convos with anyone. 😊

Consult a Biblical Counselor 

Couples testimony
*And a few more other helpful advice

While idk if infidelity played any part in your situation, but theres great testimonies here of how God truly restored marriages. I pray that for you both. ❤️✝️✨️

Keep in mind, as a believer to have a Right mindset; grace, forgiveness & love 

And lean on God and get your strength from the promises and guidance he gave us, for during life's difficult times. 🫂😊


God bless 

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