Tired of being unequally yoked
Q: I feel like leaving my marriage. Tired of constant arguing of how Christian religion is wrong, and how he has his mind in politics and that "I just can’t see other religions" possibilities, and so on and so on.
He wrongly uses Scripture to make a point towards me, but doesn't believe. Though he got baptized before we got married (6 years ago), just to be like this to me. When I remember back when we were dating he did say he was agnostic. But then he started going to church, buying suits for it, attending Bible study etc up to the baptism. And anger marriage just seeing him going more and more to the opposite direction. I tense up when I hear him say mean things about God, Jesus and me. Feel 50/50 with my marriage.
Hear of others husbands changing and going with Christ. Mine husband (well bf at the time) did that but now he’s like this. Is it just a season of his life and God can still work through him? It’s almost like we staring to resent each other…I know we shouldn’t but when it’s day in and day out to the point I have said I won’t bring up religion to him…just for him to constantly bring it up to me…feel like can’t share with him.
A: First, God calls us to remain married.
1 Corinthians 7:12-14
If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband.
God wants us to shine forth Christ through us in the home, to minister to our family, growing into maturitybin the Faith, and be prayerful.
Life is hard, it is full of struggles, heartache, tears, suffering etc since sin entered in Eden. But believers have God on their side. And, His will will be done. All things work out for good in the end; accomplishes his purpose in our lives, our family's lives, our grand children and distant future generations. We can see that clearly (from Eden to Eternity) in the Bible.
For those of us traveling the slow path (of the living) it seems tiresome and endless, but we know God is with us, holding our hand and lovingly walking us through this "valley of the shadow of death" on earth, with final destination being entering glory and evermore being with our Savior Jesus.
For many of us (when young), we thought we married someone who was converted, only to find out shortly that they were a false convert [which threatens soils parable talks of]. But God is still with us, day by day, situation by situation, and growing and maturing us, so we can see things rightly, behave, respond, think, and speak Christlike, to draw them to Him. Not throw them away, run away and seek perfection elsewhere. In fact the marriage covenant is a picture of the Gospel 😊, and important to understand.
Second, try to reach him purposefully. These can help. Its good he is still talking religion, even if he is wrong. Use that as opportunity to plant seeds if truth. And get him thinking. These can really help you.
Videos to watch together that explain Christianity.
Third, love on him.
(& follow and trust God).
These resources will address a lot related, and provide good helps to you as you grow in the Faith, & live holy before your unsaved husband and kids, and bless you.
Regardless of whether or not he comes to Christ, you are a follower of Him. You are to focus yourself on Jesus, you yourself are accountable to and loved by God, who in Christ saved you. So faithfully live your life for Christ, regardless of your husband's salvation status. It's not even a issue in Heaven as we will all be individuals there, just as we were when we were born, and before marriage. Keep your eyes on Jesus. If he rejects the Gospel, the free gift of Christ and dies in his sins, thats on him. He lived in a country where he heard the Gospel, had access to read the Bible, and has no excuse. We are each responsible for our own selves to God.
Keep being hopeful and prayerful for his conversion (by God), and be a faithful witness and follower. It is all you can do. And, rejoice if he does get saved; it will be clear by the radical transformation that accompanies salvation, and by his perseverance.
God bless
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