Feeling lost, having faith doubts, unsure God exists, prayers not answered, suffering, life problems, what peace?, direction problems, cant overcome bf loss, cant understand Bible
Q: How do you deal with doubt/ trying to find a reason for life. Also figuring out the distinction between relationship with God and Christian Nationalism. I’m feeling very lost and like I’m on the wall of losing my faith.
I don’t want to lose my faith, but my prayers feel vain, and reading the Bible just seems like reading any other History book. I don’t know what to do I’m pretty sure God is real, but I don’t understand. For instance, I’ve prayed for almost 3yrs that God would take away the deep feelings I have for my ex because it causes me so much hurt and He never does. Everyday I wake up crippled by the pain of that situation, I feel lost and lonely and yet my cries feel like they’re bouncing off the walls of Heaven.
I’m not looking for any kind of male validation. I simply think that if God is so good and brings peace then I wouldn’t still be struggling so hard with this amongst other things. I feel like nothing in my life goes any good way at all. I pray and nothing happens. I read the Bible and nothing changes. And no my heart isn’t in the wrong place. I know life in general is hard and things don’t go our way 24/7. But it makes little sense to me that a good God would give me such a hard life and not answer any prayers. I’ve tried sincerity, I’ve known God my entire life. Nothing has ever happened that I’ve prayed for.
Thank you for guiding w some help & words of encouragement.
A: The peace and joy Jesus brings us... is peace with God/ "right standing". 👉Not about having a problem free life.
God has plans for us and His will prevails over our desires, esp if not in His will. If you fight against God and go your own way pursuing selfishly then it wont go well cuz he wants you to go another path, with a good purpose. It means your not listening to Scripture / not obeying , pursuing holy living. Still thinking with a wrong mindset.
Man Plans, but God Directs
• Proverbs 16:9 – “A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.”
• Proverbs 19:21 – “There are many plans in a man’s heart, nevertheless the Lord’s counsel—that will stand.”
• James 4:13–15 – “You ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that.’”
• Psalm 37:23 – “The steps of a man are established by the Lord.
God redirects us to where He wants us to go, for our good and His Will.
There Is a Way That Seems Right
• Proverbs 14:12 – “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.”
People Did What They Wanted
The Heart Is Wicked / Deceptive:
• Judges 17:6 – “In those days there was no king in Israel; everyone did what was right in his own eyes.”
People follow their own heart and it isnt aligned with righteousness but selfishness.
• Jeremiah 17:9 – “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?”
• Mark 7:21–23 – Jesus lists evil thoughts and actions as coming “from within, out of the heart of men.”
• Genesis 6:5 – “Every intent of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.”
Who knows man's heart, but God?
• John 2:24–25
“But Jesus did not commit Himself to them, because He knew all men, and had no need that anyone should testify of man, for He knew what was in man.”
• Matthew 9:4
“But Jesus, knowing their thoughts, said, ‘Why do you think evil in your hearts?’”
• Matthew 12:25
“But Jesus knew their thoughts…”
• Luke 6:8
“He knew their thoughts…”
• Luke 9:47
“Jesus, knowing the thoughts of their heart…”
• Luke 11:17
“But He, knowing their thoughts, said to them…”
• Revelation 2:23
“I am He who searches the minds and hearts.”
More on human limitation vs. God’s sovereignty:
Trusting God’s Guidance
• Proverbs 3:5–6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
• Psalm 32:8 – “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go.”
God’s Wisdom Higher Than Ours
• Isaiah 55:8–9 – “My thoughts are not your thoughts…”
Human Nature and Foolishness
• Romans 1:21–22 – They became futile in their thinking…
• Ecclesiastes 7:20 – “There is not a righteous man on earth who does good and never sins.”
I cant tell if youre noting your not saved or are and struggling with young more immature believer doubts [which can be overcome with education]. Cuz if you turned to God thru Jesus for salvation then you know He is real and are trusting in Jesus (the God man). If youre not sure, this will help & explain the Gospel.
Once saved, we are restored to who God designed humans to be. And we pursue that.
This is a very basic Christian understanding that all believers should be aware of at the very beginning. It is taught in disipleship class, even before you get baptized [as a Believer]. So idky youre struggling with that. Unless youre in a false church, which is possible.
Another very basic Christian truth (you should already know)....We live in a world stained by sin, so suffering exists. It is reality, at least for Christians - God IS with US, and gives grace, and helps us through life here. It isnt a struggle we will deal with in eternity, but is a reality living in this fallen world that was corrupted by msns sin. If you "know God" then you shouldve had that understanding already, since you said its been "all your life". But... knowing of God and trusting in Him are 2 diff things. Demons know of God, but we put our trust in Him, surrendering to Him as our God, Lord, Savior, Master, Head etc.
Believers also understand that:
○God doesnt hear the prayers of the unsaved, unless it is at salvation.
○God doesnt hear nor answer prayers of believers who are living in sin, (who have broken fellowship with God by their sins), until resolved. Keeping short sin accounts daily is vital to a good and close relationship with God.
○That prayer answers are not done to give us selfish things we want, but only those that are in accordance with His Will. Our heart desires are to align to God not to ourselves.
○That He answers them : no, not right now, later, and I have different plans, or not until you mature in x area, or until the timing is right. Besides- yes.
●note: God isnt a genie you pray for wishes to. We pray to him to align our heart, mind, will and desires to Him. If you were using him that way, ofc all the prayers would be no.
As to Christian nationalism...
In West/USA we have a nation founded on Christianity. Our society was built around it, everyone believed and lived under Biblical truth, and our laws were made on it. From the 20s to 50s there was a atheistic change happening, removing God from our schools and more folk lived in sinful rebellion towards God. We also started immigrating folk from other nations at that time like China, Asia and in 65 opened the doors to the world. Everyone legally here assimilated to our society/culture (tho some held to their eastern religions). They mostly blended in but sin is strong ...and then feminism(1) began 💔, which caused us to be where we are today. Women usurped their role as God in Eden warned would happen. Men were not being leaders and correcting their wives, single women went into workforce and college and pushed sinful rebellious ideas, and men ignored them, their organizations and didn't be the ones standing up to nonsense they pushed and so laws got made, women being teachers ended up in public schools pushing nonsense and destroying society and God's design for their role and place. They didnt "ask their husbands" on matters to be educated on topics in life that intersect with biblical truths, morality, holiness, godly living, and society, theology etc, so they went with their decietful hearts, going their own way, doing what they thought right in their wickedness & rebellion. So that today all issues we deal with in US are of Gen 1-11. Which Scripture continues to tell us and educate us about throughout Scripture. So, today, our problems are moral in nature and in confirming to God's design and commands. Every liberal issue today traces back to rebelling against God. So theres 2 things here. 1. Unsaved folk love sin and rebel against God. They'll push and push so society eventually accepts something, and goes 30 miles beyond that, thung by thing. To bring it to the furthest evil stretch possible. 2. Unsaved folk dint have the new nature, they dont have the Fruit of the Spirit. They dont by nature pursue rughteousness and dont align to God & His Word. They live out a distirted (idolatrous) broken counterfiet type of moralism [which ever they pick and choose, and to whatever degree item by item they will hold to. So their morals are not in line with righteousness. Only about what they can get out of it (respect, conformity, praise, or a benefit of some kind/getting things in return), and how far they can push those boundaries, and join in with the majority so they can stretch into a more broader allowance of sin as it gets stretched more.
So for Christians, we will always take everything back to Scripture, to submit to/follow God in truth, and thus they hate us. So we pursue laws and things here that bless and love, they seek hate and destruction. Destroying marriage, destroying the family, among it, fornication/no abstinence, no purity, destroying relationships (lgbt+/polygamy/multiples), destroying babies (abortion, abandonment, orphans, ivf killing countless babies), teaching evil subtly and outright in public schools and colleges, pushing for fascism (silencing those who oppose their love of sin & who dont hold their views), greed to attain power and money of others while pushing for liberal policies and removing rights for freedom and liberty of others, (incl pushing socialism, communism Marxisme etc), putting ithers lower without care of how it affects others. Plus, Open boarders, not vetting those coming in, so terrorists enter, & crimes happen; women raped, kidnapped, murdered, drugs pour in, citizens die. Money funneled to other nations. The list goes on.
So we Christians can and should have patriotism to our nation. Govt job is to sovereignly control our borders, protect out nation, vet anyone coming in, refusing others who dont align to our society and seek to harm, invade, take over. and the govts job is to leave folk alone to let people live in freedom, with a limited govt, and no red tape, stay off ourvproperty, away from interferingin our homes, lives, parenting etc, Etc.
So yes, vote for what is right that God says, in principle, in general and specific. To hold evil back as long as we can, while living out the Christian life too. Further we are called not to be unequally yoked and that includes partnerships. We dont join hands with false Christian religions, nor false religions nor atheists. Ex. We have our separate pro life ministries and organizations, we dont join with cults, Catholics and Mormons. So that we can present truth. To minister the truth and true Gospel to those we engage with. Same with charity work, for same reason. We dont align Satan with Christ, darkness to light etc. So real Christian Nationalism is right. Any label the leftist liberals try to label us is a false one. So ignore it and speak truth. However theres a false CN that isnt true and is counterfeit, avoid them cuz theyre not pursuing righteousness, and are likely false Christians.
Heres some things that will help you on the topics today. You'll be blessed if you go through it all. I say this to be a help in your struggles. These address them all.
*Solidifying help, by videos
*Presents reasons we know God exists in how he revealed Himself to us.
*Go thru the attributes area too. Understanding that (study) will greatly help you as you live out the Christian life.
*These are needed to know & believe before one can recieve the Gospel.
Moving on from a breakup.
* if hes not a Christian pursuing holiness, hes not a husband suitor, thus not qualified to even date you. Focus on the one God has for you later on. And focus now on growing into maturity in the Faith, so youre ready for "him" when God's timing hits.
We are called to fight and conquer sin, so your holding sinfully onto the past & someone not right for you. So you cant move forward till you battle and conquer that issue. Thats not a God issue, thats a you issue; pursue holiness and God's will. Right now your in idolatry, a spiritual adultery towards God by not living as he wants you to. Clinging to something you want in sinful desire, so you won't let go, like a toddler who wants something thats not good for them. Having tantrums over it. Release it to God and move towards where His will is.
Beyond these, do meet and talk with your pastor. If you are not in church, it is a reason you struggle with these, as you haven't been shepherded nor got the leaders counsel. I encourage you to go to church, and integrate there. If you dont have a church, this can guide to good Bible focused one. You need to be an active member in your local community of believers, at a church, to guide you in the Faith, prepare you for spiritual warfare, continue training you up in the Faith, helping you live in and pursue holiness, and into maturity, as well as equip you to go reach the lost. Church isnt optional, it is vital to a true Christian.
God bless
Footnote:
(1) Feminism note.
What I said there is likely not what your thinking (see below links).
I'm not saying we women dont and shouldn't have rights. Ours are to align to God's design layed out in Scripture, and has to do with lovingly submitting to it, and men are to be godly leaders. Theyre to love us as Christ loved the Church, and loves us still. Unsaved men though are not godly. Our nation had godly men in power fir a long time and those adhering to Christisn morality. Later (recently) unsaved ones got in positions of power in this world & pursue sin...thus cause problems so good laws made are thrown out and replaced with bad ones. We need good ones to protect women, but iffy or evil men are in those positions, so it is hard to change back to the good ones, to require decent moral standard for society to follow. That can be challenging. Yet among believers in equally yoked marriages, and churches that are under God's care, we thrive. We are in the world, not of it, influencing it yes, and mostly being in godly communities [our church] where good protections and holy living exist and are pursued. We balance both life in this world and in our local church family.
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