Returning to your Spouse or welcoming him back, & on Loving your husband

Proverbs 14:1-3

The wise woman builds her house,

But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.

Returning to your Husband:

Key Bible Principles & Verses

Marriage is a covenant to be honored

• Malachi 2:14–16 – God hates divorce; He calls spouses to faithfulness.

• Matthew 19:4–6 – “What God has joined together, let no one separate.”

• Wives are called to love & submit to their husbands (within God’s love and headship)

• Ephesians 5:22–24 – Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.

• Colossians 3:18 – Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

• Husbands are called to love sacrificially

• Ephesians 5:25–28 – Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church, giving Himself for her.

• 1 Peter 3:7 – Husbands are to honor and live with their wives understandingly.

• Unsaved spouses cant do that since theyre not born again, but can try to be a somewhat morally decent spouse. 

• Forgiveness and reconciliation

• 1 Corinthians 7:10–11 – “A wife must not separate from her husband… but if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband.”

• Romans 12:18 – “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”

• Matthew 18:21–22 – Forgive repeatedly, as God forgives.

• Repentance and restoration after sin

• Hosea 3:1 – God commanded Hosea to redeem and restore his wife as a picture of grace.

• Luke 15:11–32 (Prodigal Son) – God values repentance and restoration; similarly, marriages can be restored through repentance, love, and forgiveness.

Summary Principle

A wife should return to her husband if reconciliation is possible, repentance and forgiveness are present, and the marriage covenant can be honored, but if abuse or danger, she needs to have a biblical counselor and her pastor guiding, for protection, safety, carefully working to resolve it, and in the course...continually repeat seperation as needed until it's resolved.

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Wives are also called to love their husband. 

And if saved, it is a character trait they have and live out. 

Wives Loving and Respecting Their Husbands

1. Ephesians 5:22–24

 “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”

Key point: Love and respect are expressed through willing, Christ-centered submission.

2. Colossians 3:18

 “Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”

Key point: Loving your husband means honoring his God-given role as leader in a humble, willing way.

3. Titus 2:4–5

 “Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”

Key point: Love includes care, respect, and godly conduct that reflects Christ.

4. 1 Peter 3:1–2

“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.”

Key point: Loving your husband can influence him spiritually through a gentle and respectful spirit.

Summary Principle

A wife’s love for her husband in Scripture is both heart and action: it includes respect, submission in the Lord, gentleness, and care, reflecting God’s order and love in the marriage covenant.

We are to love and go to great lengths even as God did for us in Christ, and as Christ did for us. This incliludes not throwing away our spouse when they do wrong to us.