CounselingChristians

Q: It’s bad to have sex before marriage even if you were already married but then got divorced and for example your in your mid 30s would that still be a sin? A: Yes. A few things to note to help you going forward.  While that whole thing sounds complicated, but here’s how you should think about it:  1. It is a sin to have sex with anyone you aren’t married to. Take the story of the Woman at the Well in John 4. She had married and divorced 5 husbands and was now sleeping with a man she wasn’t married with, and Jesus pointed that out as a sin she was living in. Does it mean she couldn’t be forgiven? No but her life needed to change so her life choices would fall into line with what God commands & expects; He designed us to be living in righteousness, and believers are to do so.  But also 2. we need to recognize the woman at the well wasnt a believer until after Jesus talked w her.  So holy living *after* salvation is important. If you were "saved" before that...

We need help. now. Our hours at work have been drastically cut, so we have almost no food, and our bills are behind. For 2 weeks I've been eating one meal every other day.  So if you could pray for me & my husband, and give ideas.... I would appreciate it. A: Glad to help... First, if you have a car, sign up to work for all delivery services you can. Uber drive, Uber eats, Door Dash, & local food delivery service similar, and instacart [you shop and drive here> but take any decent bid offer and work well at the job, as if to the Lord, and go the extra mile, even if they do not add any extra tip.  If any services dont allow you to sign at multiple places, only sign at the ones that don't try to monopolize you.  You get paid a gig fee to do the job, (which is 🙃 commonly labeled as be a tip). Be polite and kind to the folk you deliver to. If after you deliver the goods or transport the people, the customer might give an extra tip, but you are not entitled to o...

A: Any podcast recommendations for a teen who has had a traumatic family life in and out of foster care? The teen is 17 and has a lot of relationship troubles, drama in any friend circle she is involved in, has a hard time accepting authority from anyone especially males. She also never wants to take responsibility for any of her mistakes/sins and accept the consequences, instead she try’s to manipulate me by saying how hard of a life she had and any excuse she can think of. I try to set good examples and I have had her read a couple books (when she lived with me a few years ago). I don’t think I could get her to actually read a book, so was hoping to get her listening to a good gospel centered podcast that maybe touch bases on any of the issues I mentioned above. I know she needs counseling and she has it through the alternative school she is in, but she says it doesn’t help at all and I honestly don’t know of any good biblical counselors in our area. A: Transformed with Dr Greg Giffo...

Q: My neice is 9, she lives mostly with her mom and I only see her every few months. Her dad is completely against us talking with her about God, and has asked my sister to not let us “brainwash her”. She’s only with her dad half the week. My sister is not happy when we talk with her about God, but she tolerates it to a degree (and she tells her that some people believe in God even if she doesn’t, and to be respectful towards them).  She gets anxious quite often, and I think the interest in the occult is to feel like she has power over her life. The interest in the occult can definitely cause increased anxiety, so it’s kind of a self feeding cycle 😞.  A: She should get good helps on this, and possibly seek medical attention, but professional biblical counseling can give her appropriate care.  Anxiety is the symptom. The root could be so many things. I know it is not up to you to solve a lot of those possibilities, but I think anything that points to God's love for her, a...

What do we need to realistically grasp about adoption.  Reactive Attachment Disorder is typical of adopting kids; is adoption a disaster for your family? Be prepared to look for signs of and living with reactive attachment disorder. Many are not ready for the child to be potentially & long term: constantly angry,  emotionally detached,  enraged at the drop of a hat,  unresponsive to discipline,  violent and sabotaging to other siblings, latching onto strangers, and going into destructive hurricanes of poop on the wall smearing, & life tormenting hate for decades Research R.A.D. and make sure you know what you are getting into first before the secular corrupt gubmint makes you pay as much as you would for a new corvette. Understanding most adopted kids are R.A.D. children Grasping issues   Adoptive family nightmares What are the options to avoid this?  1. Adopting newborn infants. Like newborns who havent had experiences in neglect.  [Negle...

Q: 1. Is it bad to pray for God to expose my "husband to be" when a sexual sin happened? A while back I found messages in his phone and I forgave it and moved on. Recently I found out that he was having sex with this woman, but when I asked him originally he liedddd. (He also gas lit me to I felt bad for doubting him).  I let the situation with the first texts go because I thought they were just talking and his apology (seemed) so genuine... plus I 💥wanted so badly to forgive because 💥 I wanted us to be a family. And I didnt want to cause a massive ruckus between our families, and breaking apart this other girls family (she’s also married; but deserves to know). And because 💥I dont want to becoming a single mum (it’s been my worst fear I was raised by one and I know how it can mess up kids & how hatd it is for the mom), it is all causing me stress. But, I have been praying for God to expose them, so I can leave. I’ve been praying for God to expose whatever nasty stuff ...

Q: I am 17 and in a relationship with a guy (20). But I am disappointed in myself.  I allowed a friend to kiss me a few hours ago (yes it was my first kiss). It was not consensual in the beginning, but I gave in eventually. Guilt has been eating me up all day and I have no idea what steps to take. I acknowledge that I should have nothing to do with relationships at this stage but I got in for experience sake and I actually do love my boyfriend.  What happened was a mistake and I've barely been able to say a word of prayer because... God's probably not happy with me rn. Please pray for me and give advice.  A: Well assuming it is a male friend, that one is a wolf. He is pretending to be a friend and will stick around prowling fir 15 years if he thinks theres a remote chance he can get you into bed. "Men" cannot be friends with women. They have ulterior motives that are not neutral and not pure.  It sounds like you were a victim, but also like you allowed it when after ...