CounselingChristians

Q: My husband thinks gambling on sports isn't a sin. He doesn't read the Bible over his family nor talk about the things of God to me or our children. He thinks he is a Christian. I'm afraid I have finally figured out he isn't one. A: Here are some guiding helps as you navigate life having found that possibly to be true.  With gambling, do know that there are many believers who haven't been convicted of and just never understood the issue with various sins but God can reveal it through godly people in their lives or their Pastors sermons as he teaches the Word in the pulpit or in Bible Study classes. [*Gambling is addressed in a below resource, as are other sins, to help us grow and mature in our Christian walk].  Wives unequally yoked are told in 1 Peter 3:5-6: "In the same way, you wives must submit yourselves to your own husbands. This way, if some of them do not obey the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see ...

Q: I lost my dad a month ago and it has really been tough on me. It's draining my relationship with God. I keep asking Him questions 😔 why did He take him. My dad was our main source of survival, he was a believer, he loved God and this is really hard for us. Mom doesn't work, so now we are at our lowest. I need words of encouragement and prayers 😔 A: Loss is one of the hardest things we have to endure here. I know the Psalmist in 139 tells us the Lord knows our days before they were fashioned for us. He is soverign & knows exactly when He will call us home, and it is always at the right time. 🤗 Take comfort in knowing the Lord knows what He is doing even when it seems hard for us, as we do not see the road ahead. We are called to trust Him entirely and know that all things work together for good. I know it may seem very hard to believe at this point but this truth always bears out, ...and we can praise, give testimony to, and thank God now and forward looking to then. ...

Q: Married with abused concerns I’ve been married for the past 3yrs and it’s always been an abusive relationship, we have 2 daughters and I’m just unhappy but I’m scared to leave. Idk if he would ever leave me alone and idk how it would workout with our daughters as he already tries to put them against me. He has cheated on me, hit me, belittled me everything you can think of. We separated for a couple of months. We ended up getting back together I thought I can move past everything but every time we get into an argument I get flashbacks of when he put his hands on me it makes me scared and it makes me feel uneasy it makes me angry it’s a roller coaster of emotions and idk what to do besides shut down and cry. I’m tired of crying tired of just feeling miserable. I want this sadness to go away 😥 A: This sounds like you need to see a professional biblical counselor . Both for yourself, your husband and you, and your kids. I'm not sure what the abuse is alleged to be, and whether it...

Q: Last night my 13 year old son came to my husband and I and said that he was feeling depressed and suicidal and has been for some time. He is saying that it is because he has nothing to look forward to and we don't let him do what he wants to do . (He wants unlimited time on video games when we only allow play on the weekends, but also he doesn't have a time limit as long as chores are done. He also wants to play in a pokemon tournament every Saturday and we said we would take him to one tournament a month because weekends are family time.)  I am at a loss of what to do. Our restrictions on Pokemon and gaming is what we think is best for him and our family but he doesn't see it. He gets addicted to the gaming. I have tried to get him involved with extra curricular activities like youth group, 4h and trail life but he doesn't want to do it but I do force him because my other 4 children are involved in these things. I even got him connected with the local college in the...

Q: Need godly counsel My husband is having issues with a girl in our church he gets horrible sexual thoughts about her. All day yesterday he kept thinking about her and I’m trying to be okay about it cause he tells me he doesn’t want to be this way and think these things and it’s better he’s telling me than hiding it but it hurts.  He does have a porn addiction and possibly a sex addiction;  he’s battled for years trying to change... but it’s hard for him it’s really got him bound. He has a very high drive and mines low so that doesn’t help. He’s talked about leaving our church because of this, (but I love our church family and would hate to leave).  Also he stopped going for a month saying he was going to find another church but never did. He says he doesn’t understand it cause he's not drawn to her looks, shes plain/average. I’ve always struggled with a low drive I think from childhood because I was molested. It can be hard cause he has some nasty kinks he wants to ta...

Q: I need your point of view, and I'd really appreciate it if you could follow it up with verses from the Bible My partner and I have been discussing a topic tonight around forgiveness, and we mentioned r@pe, I told him that if somebody r@ped somebody else or many people but after a while they felt remorse and really bad about what they've done and asked for God's forgiveness they're gonna be forgiven (I'm a victim but it's not up for me to decide what God wants because he sees what I don't and he's a forgiving God), but if they didn't feel remorse they're not gonna be forgiven even if they ask God for forgiveness because God knows what's in our hearts. But my partner says that if somebody has r@ped somebody else then they're not gonna be forgiven, or they should not be forgiven by God even if they felt remorse and genuinely asked for forgiveness , and he also says that he should not go to heaven and happen to meet that person there with ...

Q: Can you have a party life and still be close with God? I'm ashamed to admit that I have become someone I don't like. I recently turned 21, and started going out to parties with my mother and getting drunk.  I've skipped youth group once to drink; I know that's wrong, and I've talked to God about it and apologized again and again. I tell myself that I know this isn't me, that I know better and don't wanna be a part of it anymore, but I just get pulled right back into it. I still go to church every Thursday and Sunday. I still study the word of God almost every day. I sit and talk to God all the time. But I'm wondering if he's mad at me... Idk, am I a bad person for doing this? Am I becoming a lukewarm Christian, am I even a Christian?  A: Believers need to know all our sins are forgiven (past present future) by Jesus when we got saved. After salvation we are progressing in/growing in sanctification. We will not be perfected until we step into eter...