CounselingChristians

Q: My sister that is New Born Christian is in a relationship with a Muslim guy. I already spoke to her many times about unequally yoke, maybe she will kicked out from the membership of the church because of this relationship, already some elders from church wanna speak to her but still she don’t listen and she says “I’m tired of being alone and waiting for a Christian guy that never comes” This Muslim guy is very gentleman with her, he pays attention to everything she likes, something that “Christian” men never did for her. I still refusing even meet him, I dislike this relationship because I’ve seen PLENTY stories of Christian women marrying with Muslim men and suffering of mental and physical abuse because of their culture and many of them expect the future wife to become Muslim. What to do? I’m very angry! Why this guy don’t look for a Muslim woman and he is following a Christian girl member of a church? He even went to church with her to pretend he is “open minded” but WE KNOW how ...

Q: Is it a sin to not want/have kids as a woman? When I was a kid I remember saying I never wanted kids and every adult always told me that I would change my mind when I’m older. That “they said the same thing” and eventually I’d fall in love with the idea of being a mother. Well, I never changed my mind. I have yet to fall in love with the idea of being a mother. There has never been a time where I looked at a cute baby video and felt baby fever. I’ve never walked passed the baby aisles in Wal-Mart and daydreamed about the cute onesies I’d put my future baby in. I’ve never daydreamed about having matching outfits with a potential future daughter. Or being the fun sports mom that bakes cookies for her child’s game. None of these things have ever crossed my mind. Of course I think babies are cute and silly. I’ll see cute videos of a baby and smile. But not to the extend where I think “I can’t wait to have a baby of my own.” A lot of people hear this and they assume I’m a liberal. Or som...

I’m 36, single, never married. I have prayed and cried about this for 2 years. I still can’t move on.  When I met the love of my life 3 yrs ago I’d never connected with anyone like I have him. I swore I was gonna marry him. He was in the military and then got orders to move overseas for 3 years. The plan was for me to stay in the US for 1 year and (last year) i'd move to be with him. A week after he got overseas... he ended things with me. He had just purchased a ring for me a month prior. He admitted he just wanted to be single and free. I was devastated.  2 yrs later I still haven’t found anyone. I still cry and miss him. He & I still keep in touch and text on occasion. We went about 8 months no contact. Lately we’ve been texting pretty regularly.  I still believe he’s my soul mate. I still believe in my heart that he & I are going to end up together. Why would God put someone so perfect in my life just to take him away?  There are days where I really miss ...

Q: I am Christian but I am pretty sure my brother just joined a cult (that claims to be Christian).  The way they are doing things is evil and wrong. Their beliefs are twisted and not of the Bible. They call it a CLUB but they are mentoring people & teaching them some modern messed up version of the Bible that is false.  Its not a popular group. Its a small local group. I cant even find it on Google or anything. He calls it a 9-5 group. They somehow combined Christianity & modern day spirituality with an added & massive amount of greed and ignorance. He is blocked on every social media acct and phone # etc that I have. He abused me as a child so we have gone no contact a while ago, but I still talk to his children’s mother and my mom talks to him. Like I already disowned him. I asked them to keep him away from me and out of my life, and not to talk about me to him or about me, and I don’t want to hear about him either.  He claims he is praying for us all to lo...

Q: How are we to interact with people we have forgiven? Jesus says we are to forgive seventy times seven times (we are to forgive endlessly), but I struggle with knowing how to treat distant/family members who have sinned (sexual abuse) against my immediate family in the past.  I believe I have forgiven them because I feel free from the pain they've caused, but maybe I haven't actually forgiven because I still don't want to be around them. I have felt convicted about my behavior with them, and while it is not outwardly rude or disrespectful, it is not joyous and loving either. I kind of just avoid them. I think Jesus would want me to be kind to them, but I know it would make me uncomfortable to be around them. It makes me anxious because I am getting married in May and will see all of them again.  A: It is good you are working through this to be as Christlike as possible in this area.  First I will note that the unsaved will and can only behave as their sinful nature does...

I am new to the faith & am building my relationship day by day with God. I work a night shift and have two kids. I have a study bible that’s been helping me to interpret the Bible, but also need time for study for an exam to pass my registration for work.  I have a boyfriend who is just beginning to accept things of God & in this, but he has controlling tendencies. He uses the Bible to try to get me to “submit” and “listen” to him. I am the bread winner in the home household. He does not work because he doesn’t keep a job. I take care of my kids (one is with him) & have to constantly give him money for gas, phone bill, etc. I’ve decided to take a step back and not take care of his responsibilities anymore. He wants to be seen as “head of the household” and “provider” but in reality he only watches our daughter … he doesn’t cook dinner often, and complains about cleaning. I have cut off sex.  Might I add I am a surrogate. Since being pregnant I have been turned away...

Q: We got married in a year ago, been together for 3 years, but after marriage and I got baptized this year... we had a lot of trials and temptations came. We would argue a lot and fight a lot we got through it but he has always had this desire to look at girls lustfully. I got so over it that I cheated on him just for him to leave me. We have hit each other too and honestly it is so draining; I get anxiety attacks and I feel I mostly get them from being around him. Through all of that he says he’s been a Christian his entire life. I am new & I don’t know much about Christianity, but I feel I shouldn’t have married him. We fight a lot we argue over small stuff last time we argued he just left me crying, and did nothing until I got a panic attacked and then he reacted as if I was going crazy. I’m so tired of it yesterday my mother told us she’s over it and says we should represent God and respect each other [she isn’t Christian and doesn’t like Going to church but it really says a ...